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Lesson Titles for the Quarter

The Home Is Built

The Home Is a Partnership

Parents in the Home

Finding Joy in Worship

Discipline in the Modern Home

Making Spiritual Values Relevant

The Home—Primary Center of Education

Health Values in the Home

Recreation Through Play and Hobby

10.

Economics in the Home

11.

Love, the Home's Foundation

12.

Giving, the Greatest Joy

13.

A Foretaste of Heaven

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The Blessing of Daily Study

"Every day some portion of time should be appropriated

to the study of the lessons, not merely in learning to me-

chanically repeat the words, while the mind does not com-

prehend the meaning; but to go to the very foundation, and

become familiar with what is brought out in the lesson."

—Counsels on Sabbath School

Work, page 53.

My Pledge

As one who greatly desires to improve his knowledge of

the Scriptures, I pledge myself to the careful and prayerful

study of some portion of my Sabbath School lesson each

day of the week.

(signed)

Home ReDation

FOURTH QUARTER, 1971

The common practice of relegating the discipline and training of children

and young people to agencies outside the home is altogether devastating in

its results. Contrary to what is sometimes supposed, the youth crave from

their parents the leadership and guidance without which they feel unsure

of themselves.

Reasonably, there comes the question: What are parents for? Not simply

to supply food and shelter and physical necessities, although this is a great

and wonderful service in itself. Parents are also counselors, builders of char-

acter, teachers of truth. They must not abdicate their position as parents.

They are those to whom God has given children, with the prime respon-

sibility as molders and shapers of manners and morals and faith. It is the

purpose of the lessons for this quarter to review the duties of parents and

to determine how they may best accomplish their task.

In the great revival and reformation that is to take place in the church,

there is no better place to begin than in the home. And for the great thrust

of worldwide evangelism, no finer preparation can be made than that which

takes place at the family altar and in the hearts of each member of God's

great household of faith.

Of a preparation for camp meeting years ago Ellen G. White made this

statement: "At home is the place to find Jesus; then take Him with you to

the meeting, and how precious will be the hours you spend there. . . . Pre-

pare your children for the occasion. Teach them that it is not of so much

consequence that they appear with fine clothes as that they appear before

God with clean hands and pure hearts. . . . Even unbelievers will feel the

holy atmosphere as they enter the encampment. . . . It will be to your soul

even as the gate of heaven."—T

estimonies,

Vol. 5, pages 164, 165.

The duty upon parents is much more than merely to provide. It is also

to teach and train, to counsel, and, as necessary, to correct—to live the part

of parents, with gentleness and firmness so intermixed as never to avoid wise

discipline or the doing of duty; to show forth leadership, and remember

never to leave out love.

Let us pray for the outpouring of the Holy Spirit on our homes as we

study the lessons for this quarter.

LESSON 1

October

THE HOME IS BUILT 1

"Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it." Psalm

127:1.

The divine plan in the creation of man

was that human society should be com-

posed of families. In the Garden of Eden

God set forth the pattern for future genera-

tions by establishing the first home. The

family unit was the base upon which the

human race was to be built. From this

first home were to ensue families after the

pattern established in Eden, for it was

there that the nature and purpose of the

home began to be revealed. So important

is the home to the human race that with-

out a true understanding of its nature and

purpose the disintegration of human so-

ciety will result. The aim of •this lesson is

to present those elements of family struc-

ture as revealed in the plan of God and to

point out how each family can best fulfill

this purpose.

KEY THOUGHTS

God is the Author of the home. He

has furnished the blueprint. The plan is

perfect; no improvement can be made

upon it. Every plan He designed has suc-

ceeded, and those who follow His plan

may be assured of success.

On the other hand, Satan is well

aware that if the home disintegrates, all

God's plans for the human race will be

seriously crippled. Consequently the evil

one is determined to destroy the home in

any way he can. His most efficient method

is to lead the human race to trust solely on

human judgment and neglect the plan of

God in this foundation unit of our society.

Man must make the choice. He can

follow the plan designed for him by God,

or he can choose to ignore it. He cannot be

neutral with respect to this matter. He

cannot be passively interested, for lack of

interest means negligence. The fact that

we choose God's plan for the home means

that we must have an active interest in

it. To do less is to court failure.

LESSON OUTLINE

God, the Architect

Gen. 1:27, 28

Man, the Builder

Prov. 24:3, 4

The Role of the Husband

Eph. 5:23

The Role of the Wife

Prov. 18:22

The Role of the Children

Eph. 6:1-3

The Purpose of the Home

Ps. 144:12

The Home Is Built

LESSON 1

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Sunday

September 26

Part 1

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"So God created man in His own image, in the image

GOD, THE of God created He him; male and female created He them.

ARCHITECT And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruit-

ful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue

it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over

the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that

Gen. 1:27, 28 moveth upon the earth."

Does the Bible give us an indication of how God

began the first home? Gen. 2:18-24.

In the creation of the home God designed that the mother

and father should form the basis of the family. Society was

not to arrange its existence on any kind of communal group-

ing. What was to give the human family its distinctive char-

acter was the permanent relationship which was to exist be-

tween mother and father. The family was to depend upon

these two for its mental, spiritual, and physical resources.

How long was this relationship to exist between the

man and the woman? Matt. 19:3-9.

When, in God's plan, did the first family become

complete? Gen. 4:1, 2.

THINK IT THROUGH

The command to "replenish the earth" is as important to

the plan of God in the creation of the home as the declaration,

"And they shall be one flesh."

"A childless house is a desolate place. The hearts of the in-

mates are in danger of becoming selfish, of cherishing a love

for their own ease, and consulting their own desires and con-

veniences. They gather sympathy to themselves, but have little

to bestow upon others."—The

Adventist Home,

page 159.

If the mother and father form the basis of the family,

are the parents totally responsible for the strength or

weakness of that home? Is conceiving children within the

family situation the only way completely to fulfill God's

plan for the home?

"Society is composed of families, and

is what the heads of families make

it. Out of the heart are 'the issues of

life' (Prov. 4:23); and the heart of the

community, of the church, and of the

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home

nation is the household. The well-being

of society, the success of the church, the

prosperity of the nation, depend upon

home influences."—"The Ministry of

Healing," page 349.

," pages 25-28.

The Home Is Built

LESSON 1

"Through wisdom is an

standing it is established:

chambers be filled with all

What must be the first

of a home?

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Monday

September

house builded; and by under-

and by knowledge shall the

precious and pleasant riches."

consideration in the building

Part 2

MAN, THE BUILDER

Prov. 24:3, 4

THINK IT THROUGH

"The first work to be done in a Christian home is to see

that the Spirit of Christ abides there, that every member of

the household may be able to take his cross and follow where

Jesus leads the

way."—The Adventist Home,

page 20. As with

the church, so with the home, Jesus Christ must be "the Chief

Cornerstone, in whom all the building fitly framed together

groweth unto an holy temple in the Lord." Eph. 2:20, 21. "It

is only in Christ that a marriage alliance can be safely formed.

Human love should draw its closest bonds from divine love.

Only where Christ reigns can there be deep, true, unselfish

affection."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 358.

If we wish Christ to occupy the central place in our

home, what must we do? Rev. 3:20.

What is the next consideration in making the home

what God intended for it to be? Rom. 12:10.

"Tender affection should ever be cherished between husband

and wife, parents and children, brothers and sisters. Every

hasty word should be checked, and there should not be even

the appearance of lack of love for one another."—The

Advent-

ist Home,

page 198.

What does it mean to make Christ the center of the

home? What are some of the ways parents and children

can manifest their love toward each other?

"God desires that heaven's plan

shall be carried out, and heaven's di-

vine order and harmony prevail, in

every family, in every church, in every

institution. Did this love leaven society,

we should see the outworking of noble

principles in Christian refinement and

courtesy, and in Christian charity

toward the purchase of the blood of

Christ. Spiritual transformation would

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 356-362.

be seen in all our families, in our in-

stitutions, in our churches. When this

transformation takes place, these agen-

cies will become instrumentalities by

which God will impart heaven's light

to the world and thus, through divine

discipline and training, fit men and

women for the society of heaven."—

"Testimonies," Vol. 8, p. 140.

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Tuesday

September 28

Part 3

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"For the husband is the head of the wife, even as

THE ROLE OF Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Saviour of

THE HUSBAND the body."

Eph. 5:23

That the father is the head of the home is a principle estab-

lished within the plan of the home which God created. How-

ever, this idea has been grossly misunderstood by some. To

be head of the home means that the father should be director

of the home, not the dictator. He is not a lord but a leader.

He stands at the head of the family not as sovereign but as

a source of physical and spiritual strength. He is as willing to

listen as he is to speak, as willing to follow counsel as he is

to give it. What makes him the head of the home is that he

can be trusted to seek for that which is the very best for his

family. It must be remembered that he is the head of the home

as Christ is the head of the church.

What should the husband's attitude be toward his

wife? Eph. 5:28.

"He should cultivate refinement and courtesy. He should

be very tender and gentle toward his wife, who is his equal in

every respect; he should not utter a word that would cast a

shadow upon her

heart."—Testimonies,

Vol. 4, pp. 36, 37.

The husband must make sure that in all his relationships

with his wife he maintains that dignity which has been be-

stowed by God on all His human creatures. He should always

hold her in honor and respect. 1 Peter 3:7.

What should be the husband's attitude toward his

children? Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21; Ps. 103:13.

THINK IT THROUGH

"Give some of your leisure hours to your children; become

acquainted with them; associate with them in their work and

in their sports, and win their confidence. Cultivate friendship

with them, especially with your sons. In this way you will be

a strong influence for good."—The

Ministry of Healing,

pages

391, 392.

In seeking the best for his family, should a father

impose his will or opinion as to what constitutes the best?

"The father is to stand at the head life is to be directed and restrained by

of his family, not as an overgrown, un- the pure principles of the Word of

disciplined boy, but as a man with God."—"The Adventist Home," page

manly character and with his passions 213.

controlled. . . . His conduct in his home

FOR

FURTHER STUDY:

"The Adventist Home," pages 211-224.

The Home Is Built

LESSON 1

The Home Is Built

LESSON 1

Part 4

THE ROLE OF

THE WIFE

Prey. 18:22

THINK IT THROUGH

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Wednesday

September

"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and ob-

taineth favor of the Lord."

What is the wife's place in the home? Gen. 2:21-22.

If the husband is the head, the wife could be said to be

the heart of the home. As the physical body needs both head

and heart, so the family is dependent on both mother and

father. Equal in importance, they each play a different role.

They complement each other but do not compete. She partici-

pates with the father in the direction of the family. Prov. 31:26.

She helps her husband and children toward the goal that God

holds before them. She brings the refinement and strength of

her femininity and makes it an influence in the home.

What should the wife's attitude be toward her hus-

band?

"The wife is to respect her husband. The husband is to love

and cherish his wife; and as their marriage vow unites them

as one, so their belief in Christ should make them one in Him."

—The Adventist Home,

page 114.

The woman who takes to herself prerogatives in the home

which were never intended for her, and then excuses her course

of action by suggesting that she does so because her husband is

a weak man, is no better than a tyrannical man who imposes

his overbearing authority on his family. The wife must remem-

ber that equality and respect should be given to the husband

as well as to the wife. It is true that respect is earned, but

weakness never becomes strength by being dictated to. A true

wife will do her best to strengthen the husband and show him

respect for the sake of the children.

Is it the wife's place to help her husband, if he is

weak, to become head of the home in reality? Are there

any real reasons for the mother to seek employment?

Let woman realize the sacredness of

her work and in the strength and fear

of God take up her life mission. Let

her educate her children for usefulness

in this world and for a home in the

better world."—"The Adventist Home,"

page 231.

"Woman should fill the position

which God originally designed for her,

as her husband's equal. The world

needs mothers who are mothers not

merely in name but in every sense of

the word. We may safely say that the

distinctive duties of woman are more

sacred, more holy, than those of man.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 231-273.

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The Home Is Built

LESSON 1

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Thursday

September 30

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is

right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first

commandment with promise; that it may be well with

thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth."

What relationship did God design should exist be-

tween children and parents? Ex. 20:12.

"This is the first commandment with promise. It is binding

upon childhood and youth, upon the middle-aged and the

aged. There is no period in life when children are excused

from honoring their parents. This solemn obligation is binding

upon every son and daughter and is one of the conditions to

their prolonging their lives upon the land which the Lord will

give the faithful. This is not a subject unworthy of notice, but

a matter of vital importance."—The

Adventist Home,

page

2 92 .

What should

the attitude of parents toward their

children? Eph. 6:4.

"Remember that children •have rights which must be re-

spected."—Ibid., p. 306.

"Let none imagine . . . that harshness and severity are

necessary to secure obedience. . . . There is danger of too

severely criticizing small things. Criticism that is too severe,

rules that are too rigid, lead to the disregard of all regulations;

and by and by children thus educated will show the same dis-

respect for the laws of Christ."—Ibid., pp. 308, 309.

THINK IT THROUGH

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Does a parent always know what is good for his chil-

dren? Must a parent receive the honor and respect of

his children even if he does not deserve it? When does

a child's financial obligation toward his parents cease?

Part 5

THE ROLE OF

THE CHILDREN

Eph. 6:1-3

"God cannot prosper those who go

directly contrary to the plainest duty

specified in His Word, the duty of chil-

dren to their parents. . . . If they dis-

respect and dishonor their earthly par-

ents, they will not respect and love

their Creator."—"The Adventist Home,"

page 293.

"Prompt and continual obedience to

wise parental rule will promote the

happiness of the children themselves,

as well as the honor of God and the

good of society. Children should learn

that in submission to the laws of the

household is their perfect liberty. Chris-

tians will learn the same lesson—that

in their obedience to God's law is their

perfect freedom."—"Child Guidance,"

page 79.

The Home Is Built

LESSON 1

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Friday

October I

Part 6

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"That our sons may be as plants grown up in their

THE PURPOSE youth; that our daughters may be as cornerstones, pol-

OF THE HOME ished after the similitude of a palace."

Ps. 144:12

THINK IT THROUGH

The home is not to be a self-contained, uninvolved entity.

It is not merely a place for humans to live and breed and die.

It is not merely for the propagation of the human race. It has

a higher destiny and purpose. The mission of the home ex-

tends beyond its own members. "The Christian home is to be

an object lesson, illustrating the excellence of the true principles

of life."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 352.

"The Christian home is God's insurance of righteousness in

the earth. The home can never be completely abolished without

the race's slipping into promiscuity of sex relations, disintegra-

tion of government, and spiritual slavery. . . . To the extent

that the ideal home is deprived of its rightful place and pow-

ers, to that extent will civilization descend. On the other hand,

the more the home is built up to its original plan and purpose,

and the better parents and prospective parents are fitted for

their duties, the more virtuous, competent, and stable will be

both state and society."—A. W. Spalding,

Makers of the Home,

page 29.

"A well-ordered Christian household is a powerful argu-

ment in favor of the reality of the Christian religion—an argu-

ment that the infidel cannot gainsay. All can see that there is

an influence at work in the family that affects the children,

and that the God of Abraham is with them. If the homes of

professed Christians had a right religious mold, they would

exert a mighty influence for good. They would indeed be

the 'light of the world.'

"—The Adventist Home,

page 36.

Can a home really fulfill the plan of God when it

shuts itself from all others and considers only its own

existence?

What are some of the things that parents can do in

the home to help their children become involved in

service?

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FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 31-35; "The Ministry of Heal-

ing," pages 388-394.

The Home Is Built

LESSON 1

Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER

Who is the architect of the home?

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LESSON 2

October 9

THE HOME IS A PARTNERSHIP

"Fulfill ye My joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one

accord, of one mind." Phil. 2:2.

The nature of the home is best under-

stood when one looks at it as a unit. To

be successful it must be a partnership. Its

success depends on cooperation. The

strength of the home will be seen in its

corporate activity. As the home is the

basic unit in society, a truly Christian

home will be a light to the world and a

means of drawing others into the fulfill-

ment of God's purpose.

As we spend this week studying the home

in its structure as a partnership, we must

keep in mind some of the guiding prin-

ciples of any joint activity. We shall see

how, by applying these principles in the

home, we can enhance the unity of the

family and develop between parents and

children a relationship which will bring

enduring happiness and joy.

LESSON OUTLINE

1. Love the Prime Requisite

1 Cor. 13:13

2. Mutual Respect Is Essential

1 Cor. 7:3, 4

3. Mutual Forbearance

1 Cor. 13:4-7

4. A Share in Home Planning

Amos 3:3

5. A Loving Dialogue

Prov. 18:21

6. A Common Faith

2 Cor. 6:14

The Home Is a Partnership

LESSON 2

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Sunday

October 3

Part 1

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"And now abideth faith, hope, charity [love], these

LOVE THE PRIME three; but the greatest of these is charity."

1 Cor. 13:13

REQUISITE

is not primarily an emotion, but a principle. Love can only

be understood in the light of the cross. At the cross the be-

The foundation of the home must be love—the love which

liever in Christ sees the fullest expression of that love. There

Christ showed His ultimate concern; there He demonstrated

love which would go to any length to provide the best for His

own. If parents in a home are motivated in their thoughts and

actions by such a principle, they can form a partnership that

will bear the irritations of life and leave for their children

a legacy that will prepare them for a future with God.

"Love is a precious gift, which we receive from Jesus. Pure

and holy affection is not a feeling, but a principle. Those who

are actuated by true love are neither unreasonable nor blind.

Taught by the Holy Spirit, they love God supremely, and

their neighbor as themselves."—The

Ministry of Healing,

pages 358, 359. Love "doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh

not her own, is not easily provoked." 1 Cor. 13:5.

Why would the apostle encourage all parents to "put

on love"? Col. 3:14.

THINK IT THROUGH

What is there about love that makes for a binding

partnership? What is the difference between love as a

principle and love as an emotion? Can there be true

love in a home when one partner imposes his will upon

the other?

"Let each give love rather than

exact it. Cultivate that which is noblest

in yourselves, and be quick to recog-

nize the good qualities in each other.

The consciousness of being appreciated

is a wonderful stimulus and satisfac-

tion. Sympathy and respect encourage

the striving after excellence, and love

itself increases as it stimulates to nobler

aims.

"Neither the husband nor the wife

should merge his or her individuality

in that of the other. Each has a per-

sonal relation to God. Of Him each is

to ask, 'What is right?' What is

wrong?' How may I best fulfill life's

purpose?' Let the wealth of your af-

fection flow forth to Him who gave His

life for you. Make Christ first and last

and best in everything."—"The Min-

istry of Healing," page 361.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 105-113.

THINK IT THROUGH

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Monday

October 4

"Let the husband render unto the wife due benevo-

lence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The

wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:

and likewise also the husband hath not power of his

own body, but the wife."

If there is one thing above another which will create a

rift in any marriage partnership, it is the desire of one partner

to be above the other. Supremacy in marriage is not a worth-

while object to strive for. A true partnership in marriage can

be achieved only when each shows respect to the other and

treats him as an equal. In the Christian home the husband

is to treat the wife with goodwill, honoring and cherishing her,

learning to understand her needs and desires as she will learn

to respect his.

"Neither the husband nor the wife should attempt to exer-

cise over the other an arbitrary control. Do not try to compel

each other to yield to your wishes. You cannot do this and

retain each other's love. Be kind, patient, and forbearing, con-

siderate, and courteous. By the grace of God you can succeed

in making each other happy, as in your marriage vow you

promised to

do."--The Ministry of Healing,

page 361.

What does Peter say should be the relationship exist-

ing between husbands and wives?

Peter 3:7.

The very warmth of the love that binds two hearts to-

gether, the closeness of contact of two lives joined as one, are

to be guarded with devout prayer and watchful care.

What do we mean by the equality of husband and

wife? In what way could husbands and wives best show

their respect for each other?

Part 2

MUTUAL RESPECT

IS ESSENTIAL

1 Cor. 7:3, 4

The Home Is a Partnership

LESSON 2

"If the will of God is fulfilled, the

husband and wife will respect each

other and cultivate love and confi-

dence. Anything that would mar the

peace and unity of the family should

be firmly repressed, and kindness and

love should be cherished. He who man-

ifests the spirit of tenderness, forbear-

ance, and love will find that the same

spirit will be reflected upon him. Where

the Spirit of God reigns, there will be

no talk of unsuitability in the marriage

relation. If Christ incleed is formed

within, the hope of glory, there will be

union and love in the home."—"The

Adventist Home," page 120.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 356-362.

The Home Is a Partnership

LESSON 2

Part 3

MUTUAL

FORBEARANCE

1 Cor. 13:4-7

THINK IT THROUGH

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Tuesday

October 5

"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; . . . beareth all

things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth

all things."

In marriage two individuals come closer and discover more

about each other than in any other association in life. This is

why the early period of marriage is a critical time. The care

with which each has gone through the courtship tends to slip

as the trials of living become very real. The weaknesses that

had been zealously controlled begin to show through. It is

very easy to see defects. If each learns the lessons of patience

and forbearance, the partnership will grow strong and that

strength will help each partner to overcome the defects that

may be part of his character. The assurance of success in the

building of a home lies in mutual love and forbearance.

"Though difficulties, perplexities, and discouragements may

arise, let neither husband nor wife harbor the thought that

their union is a mistake or a disappointment. Determine to be

all that it is possible to be to each other. Continue the early

attentions. In every way encourage each other in fighting the

battles of life. Study to advance the happiness of each other.

Let there be mutual love, mutual forbearance. Then marriage,

instead of being the end of love, will be as it were the very

beginning of

love."—The Ministry of Healing,

page 360.

What admonition to all Christians applies especially

to husbands and wives? Rom. 12:10.

"We cannot cherish home affection with too much care; for

the home, if the Spirit of the Lord dwells there, is a type of

heaven. . . . If one errs, the other will exercise Christlike for-

bearance and not draw coldly away."—The

AdveittiirlThme,

page 118.

Is there ever a time when a husband or wife can come

to the limit in forbearance? What is the relationship

between forbearance and infidelity?

"Without mutual forbearance and

love no earthly power can hold you

and your husband in the bonds of

Christian unity. Your companionship in

the marriage relation should be close

and tender, holy and elevated, breath-

ing a spiritual power into your lives,

FOR

FURTHER

STUDY:

"The Adventist Home," pages 114-128.

that you may be everything to each

other that God's Word requires. When

you reach the condition that the Lord

desires you to reach, you will find

heaven below and God in your life."

—"The Adventist Home," page 112.

The Home Is a Partnership

LESSON 2

Part 4

A SHARE IN

HOME PLANNING

Amos 3:3

THINK IT THROUGH

111 Wednesday

October 6

"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

Our text provides a very important thought which will

make a home either a partnership or a chaotic situation. In

too many cases husbands and wives find themselves at variance

as to how to govern the home. There are those who think that

because they are the head of the home all decisions are to be

made by them irrespective of how the wife feels. This was

never the plan of God in the forming of the home. A home

which is run on this basis may soon disintegrate, and the hus-

band and wife often go their separate ways before many

summers come and go. When the prophet says that it is diffi-

cult for two to walk together unless they are agreed, he is

suggesting an essential principle of a happy home. Both hus-

band and wife hold the responsibility for the home. They are

both to come together and share in the destiny of their chil-

dren. Counseling together, they are to plan a course of action

which will help the whole family toward God and heaven. It

is good for any husband and wife to remember the words of

Eccl. 4:9-12.

In giving man a companion, how did God emphasize

this principle of corporate planning and action by hus-

band and wife? Gen. 2:18.

"The happiness and prosperity of the marriage relation

depends upon the unity of the

parties."—Patriarchs and

Prophets,

page 174. As a "helpmeet" the wife is to be a coun-

selor and help in the building of the home.

What can a wife do when she finds herself not being

included in any of the decisions having to do with her

home? What are the ways in which a wife can truly be

a fellow planner of the home? What part should a wife

play in the devotional aspect of the home?

"Let the husband and wife study

each other's happiness, never failing

ink

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rillToTrrtesies and little kindly

acts that cheer and brighten the life.

Perfect confidence should exist between

husband and wife. Together they

should consider their responsibilities.

Together they should work for the

highest good of their children. Never

should they in the presence of the chil-

dren criticize each other's plans or

question each other's judgment. Let the

wife be careful not to make the hus-

band's work more difficult. Let the

husband hold up the hands of his wife,

giving her wise counsel and loving en-

couragement."—"The Ministry of Heal-

ing," pages 393, 394.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry ofHealing," pages 371-378.

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Part 5

A LOVING

DIALOGUE

Prov. 18:21

THINK IT THROUGH

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Thursday

October 7

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and

they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof."

More unhappiness can result from a communications failure

than from any other one cause. When problems and disagree-

ments arise, many couples aggravate the trouble by a failure

to discuss their problems. But it is only by a free and open

exchange between husband and wife that many a disagreement

can be avoided. Two people who are truly in love desire to

know each other more and more as the years go by. In this

knowledge they will find a closeness which will bind them

together and will be a source of strength for each as they face

the problems of life together. In no better way can this be

accomplished than by an exchange of thoughts and ideas, of

goals and ambitions. There is no place in the Christian home

for a wife to live in loneliness because of a lack of communi-

cation. There is no place in the Christian home for a man or

wife to speak only in grunts or well-aimed stinging words.

The marriage will grow ever sweeter and stronger in the ex-

change of words that represent a living and loving dialogue.

How much should a wife say to her husband about

herself? And he about himself? What are the important

things that husband and wife should talk about? What

conversations should they avoid when the children are

present?

The Home Is a Partnership

LESSON 2

It takes a rugged purpose, and daily

touch with God, and pure habits of

life for married people to continue the

respect for each other and the little

courtesies with which their friendship

began. But if there is genuine rever-

ence for God, there will certainly be

due respect, admiration, and charity

for each other.

"'Let knowledge grow from more to

But more of reverence in us

dwell;

That mind and soul'according

well,

May make one music as before.

But vaster."

—Tennyson

"A house with love in it, where

love is expressed in words and looks

and deeds, is a place where angels

love to manifest their presence and

hallow the scene by rays of light from

glory. There the humble household

duties have a charm in them. None

of life's duties will be unpleasant to

your wife under such circumstances.

She will perform them with cheerful-

ness of spirit and will be like a sun-

beam to all around her, and she will

be making melody in her heart to the

Lord. . . . There is a serious lack of

love's precious influence which leads

to kindly attentions. Love should be

seen in the looks and manners and

heard in the tones of the voice."—"The

Adventist Home," page 109.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Messages to Young People," pages 453-466.

Part 6

A COMMON FAITH

2 Cor.

6:14

THINK IT THROUGH

❑

Friday

October 8

"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbe-

lievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with un-

righteousness? and what communion hath light with

darkness?"

Unless husband and wife see eye to eye in the basic ele-

ments of religious faith, they cannot be one in purpose. So

far as possible, then, provision for this unity should be made

at the very beginning, by selecting a mate from the same

church fellowship. It is granted that being members of the

same church does not in itself ensure spiritual unity. And

sometimes the faith of either husband or wife may grow cold

or their experience may undergo a change. Still it is no ad-

vantage, indeed it is folly, to accept consciously such a divi-

sion at the beginning.

Why did Moses admonish the Israelites not to inter-

marry with the Canaanites? Deut. 7:3, 4.

"There is in the Christian world an astonishing, alarming

indifference to the teaching of God's Word in regard to the

marriage of Christians with unbelievers. Many who profess

to love and fear God choose to follow the bent of their own

minds rather than take counsel of Infinite Wisdom. In a

matter which vitally concerns the happiness and well-being

of both parties for this world and the next, reason, judgment,

and the fear of God are set aside, and blind impulse, stubborn

determination, is allowed to control. . . . All this is as Satan

would have it. . . . It is no easy thing to decide what advice

can be given to these unfortunate ones, or how their hard lot

can be lightened; but their sad experience should be a warn-

ing to

others."—Testimonies,

Vol. 5., pp. 365, 366.

Can this principle of not marrying an unbeliever ap-

ply to an Adventist who has no real experience with

God?

The Home Is a Partnership

LESSON 2

"Let those who are contemplating

marriage weigh every sentiment and

watch every development of charac-

ter in the one with whom they think

to unite their life destiny. Let every

step toward a marriage alliance be

characterized by modesty, simplicity,

sincerity, and an earnest purpose to

please and honor God. Marriage af-

fects the afterlife- both in this world

and in the world to come. A sincere

FOR FURTHER

STUDY "The Adventist Home

Christian will make no plans that God

cannot approve.

"If you are blessed with God-fearing

parents, seek counsel of them. Open to

them your hopes and plans, learn the

lessons which their life experiences

have taught, and you will be saved

many a heartache. Above all, make

Christ your counselor. Study His Word

with prayer."—"The Ministry of Heal-

ing," page 359.

," pages 434-443.

Answers: (1) love; (2) True, False, False; (3) early attentions, happiness; (4) Gen. 2:18; (5)

communications; (6) unbelievers would lead them from God.

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LESSON 3

PARENTS IN THE HOME

"Children's children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are

their fathers." Prov. 17:6.

It is the parents who provide the foun-

dation upon which the home is built. The

success of any home is in a great degree

dependent upon the character and direction

of the parents. They are the builders of the

home. Their influence molds it for good or

for evil. This responsibility is, of course,

one which rests upon both parents. No man

can plead that his business does not allow

him to fulfill his part. For it does not mat-

ter how devoted the mother is to the task,

the absence of the father in this work will

stand in the way of any lasting results.

There are certain responsibilities that par-

enthood imposes, and in this lesson we

shall call attention to some which are im-

portant in making parenthood a success.

KEY THOUGHTS

Preparation—Parenthood is not a

duty into which one stumbles without fore-

thought. When we talk about planned par-

enthood, the emphasis is usually upon con-

trolling the conception of children. It would

be well to shift the emphasis to the quali-

fications of the parents, for much thought-

ful consideration should go into the roles

of the mother and the father of a child.

The responsibilities which this step involves

should be entered into with all seriousness.

There should be a physical, mental, and

spiritual preparation in the planning for

children. When a child is born, two par-

ents are made. Then it is too late to won-

der whether they are fit or ready for such

an undertaking.

Education—As

a parent you have a

responsibility to your children to keep

abreast of what is best and proper for

them. There are those parents who spend

more time keeping in touch with the latest

on cars and houses than on how best to

prepare their children for life. And initial

preparation is not enough. There must be

a continual learning.

Dedication—There

is no such thing

as weekend parenthood. There is too much

of the feeling that during the week it is

up to the school and that the parents' con-

cern is only for the weekend. The task of

parenthood is a work which asks for the

whole of the parent's life. This may seem

to be asking a lot, but if you give life to

children, they demand the attention. A par-

ent then must be dedicated to the task of

caring for and training his children until

they are launched into life. The commit-

ment is truly demanding, but the rewards

are worth the effort.

LESSON OUTLINE

Family Morale

Prov. 15:4

Teaching

Deut. 6:7

Religious Education

Deut. 6:4-7

Discipline

Eph. 6:1-4, Phillips

Courtesy—Etiquette

1 Peter 3:8, Phillips

Healthful Living

3 John 2, Phillips

Parents in the Home

LESSON 3

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Sunday

October 10

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Part 1

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"A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverse-

FAMILY MORALE ness therein is a breach in the spirit."

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Prov. 15:4

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Spirit and atmosphere of the home is primarily a responsi-

bility of the parents. The cheerfulness of the home will depend

on how parents relate to life with its hardships or its joys. The

parents can promote a spirit of tranquillity and peace or a

spirit of contention. This is determined by the parents' atti-

tudes and words. It will be determined also in their disposi-

tion. Theirs will be either a spirit of optimism, faith, and

love, or one of pessimism, unbelief, and hostility. The children's

attitude toward religion and toward the church will be deter-

mined to a great degree by the attitudes of their parents to

these things. And this attitude and outlook on every part of

life will be carried from the home into the world.

"Parents, be cheerful, not common and cheap, but be

thankful and obedient and submissive to your heavenly

Father. You are not at liberty to act out your feelings if things

should arise that irritate. Winning love is to be like deep

waters, ever flowing forth in the management of your chil-

dren. They are the lambs of the flock of God. Bring your little

ones to Christ. If parents would educate their children to be

pleasant, they should never speak in a scolding manner to

them. Educate yourself to carry a pleasant countenance, and

bring all the sweetness and melody possible into your voice.

The angels of God are ever near your little ones, and your

harsh loud tones of fretfulness are not pleasant to their ears."

—The Adventist Home,

page 432.

Knowing the influence of words, what does the apostle

suggest about our speech at all times? Col. 4:6.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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If a child develops a spirit of contention and bitter-

ness, is it always the parent's fault? How does a parent

develop a spirit which will contribute to his children's

disposition?

"Home should be a place where

cheerfulness, courtesy, and love abide;

cnd where these graces dwell, there

will abide happiness and peace. Trou-

bles may invade, but these are the

lot of humanity. Let patience, grati-

tude, and love keep sunshine in the

heart, though the day may be ever so

cloudy. In such homes angels of God

abide."—"The Ministry of Healing,"

page 393.

"Above all things else, let parents

surround their children with an atmos-

phere of cheerfulness, courtesy, and

love. A home where love dwells, and

where it is expressed in looks, in

words, and in acts, is a place where

angels delight to manifest their pres-

ence.

"Parents, let the sunshine of love,

cheerfulness, and happy contentment

enter your own hearts; and let its

sweet, cheering influence pervade your

home."—"Child Guidance," page 146.

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"Child Guidance," pages 146-149.

Parents in the Home

LESSON 3

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❑

Monday

October 11

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Part 2

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"And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy chil-

TEACHING dren, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine

house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when

Deut. 6:7 thou liest down, and when thou risest up."

It was always the plan of God that parents should be the

teachers for their children. When Israel was brought out of

Egypt, He again emphasized the work of the parents as teach-

ers. Unfortunately in many instances this has been overlooked

by modern parents. They have relinquished their responsibil-

ity and left it all for the teacher in the school. However, the

school is to be a supplement for the work which is done in

the home by mothers and fathers. In the final analysis, it is

in the home where children are prepared for school and for

life. See

The Adventist Home,

page 185. The responsibility of

being teachers to their children is most important, and to

neglect it is to rob the children of that which will prepare

them for life.

"Parents should not lightly regard the work of training

their children, nor neglect it upon any account. They should

employ much time in careful study of the laws which regu-

late our being. They should make it their first object to be-

come intelligent in regard to the proper manner of dealing

with their children, that they may secure to them sound minds

in sound bodies."—Child

Guidance,

pages 21, 22.

According to the wise man, why is parental teaching

so important? Prov. 22:6.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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Why is the instruction of parents so important to a

child? What are some of the things.which children can

learn from parents which they may not receive in school?

"Will parents review their work in

the educating and training of their

children, and consider whether they

have done their whole duty in hope

and faith that these children may be

a crown of rejoicing in the day of the

Lord Jesus? Have they so labored for

the welfare of their children that Jesus

can look down from heaven and by the

gift of His Spirit sanctify their efforts?

Parents, it may be yours to prepare

your children for the highest usefulness

in this life, and to share at last the

glory of that which is to come."—

"Child Guidance," page 25.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY:

"The Adventist Home," pages

181-186.

Parents in the Home

LESSON 3

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Tuesday

October 12

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Part 3

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"Hear, 0 Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: and

RELIGIOUS thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and

EDUCATION with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these

words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine

heart: and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy

Deut. 6:4-7 children."

A child first learns about God from his parents. He should

also learn from his parents the place that God should hold in

his life. He catches the sincerity and reality of God from the

relationship of his parents with God. The foundation, then,

for the religious life of the child is laid by the parents, and

on this foundation is built their future spiritual faith. The

meaning of God is learned at home. If God is not taken se-

riously, this attitude will be passed along to the children. If

the children never see their parents pray, they will consider

that God does not matter much. This makes the practice of

family worship important. For when it is entered into with

iiriTifityFrdeirotionrwhen the children see their parents in

this act of commitment and worship, the children will come

to believe in the importance of God for life. The worship

time will then become a symbol to the whole family that God

stands at the center of all family activity. It will be seen by

the children that the Bible is more than a book for display;

it is truly a book for life. And in this religious education of

the family both father and mother should share.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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How can we make the relationship with God a reality

to our children? What are some of 'the reasons for the

neglect of worship in the home? Who should take the

initiative in the religious education of the children? Why?

"From the earliest age a wise edu-

cation in Christ's lines is to be begun

and carried forward. When the chil-

dren's hearts are impressible, they are

to be taught concerning eternal reali-

ties."—"The Adventist Home," page

320.

"Parents make a most terrible mis-

take when they neglect the work of

giving their children religious training,

thinking that they will come out all

right in the future and, as they get

older, will of themselves be anxious

for a religious experience. Cannot you

see, parents, that if you do not plant

the precious seeds of truth, of love, of

heavenly attributes, in the heart, Satan

will sow the field of the heart with

tares?"—"Ibid.," p. 319.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 317-325.

Parents in the Home

LESSON 3

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❑

Wednesday

October 13

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Part 4

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"Children, the right thing for you to do is to obey your

DISCIPLINE parents as those whom God has set over you. The first

commandment to contain a promise was: Honor thy father

and thy mother that it may be well with thee, and that

thou mayest live long on the earth. Fathers, don't over-

correct your children or make it difficult for them to obey

Eph. 6:1-4, the commandment. Bring them up with Christian teaching

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in Christian discipline."

What is the duty of children to parents and the duty

of parents to children? Col. 3:20, 21.

Of all the responsibilities that fall to parents, discipline is

perhaps the most delicate. It is here that the relationship be-

tween parent and child will be made or broken. It is in the

realm of discipline that the parent must look seriously and

earnestly into his own heart. For discipline may flow either

from emotional troubles or out of a heart that loves enough

that it may have to hurt in order to help. In many cases dis-

cipline is a form of retaliation on the child for his "affront"

to parental authority.

What are the results of correct home discipline?

THINK IT THROUGH

"One of the first lessons a child needs to learn is the lesson

of obedience. Before he is old enough to reason, he may be

taught to obey. By gentle, persistent effort, the habit should be

established. Thus, to a great degree, may be prevented those

later conflicts between will and authority that do so much

to create alienation and bitterness toward parents and teach-

ers, and too often resistance of all authority, human and

divine ."—Education ,

page 287.

Who is responsible for the discipline in the home?

What does it mean to provoke your children? Is physical

discipline a good way to teach children obedience?

"It requires skill and patient effort

to mold the young in the right man-

ner. Especially do children who have

come into the world burdened with a

heritage of evil, the direct results of

the sins of their parents, need the

most careful culture to develop and

strengthen their moral and intellectual

faculties. And the responsibility of the

parents is heavy indeed. Evil tenden-

cies are to be carefully restrained and

tenderly rebuked; the mind is to be

stimulated in favor of the right. The

child should be encouraged in attempt-

ing to govern himself. And all this is

to be done judiciously, or the purpose

desired will be frustrated."—"Child

Guidance," page 228.

FOR FURTHER

STUDY: "Counsels to Teachers," pages 111-118.

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LESSON 3

Part 5

COURTESY—

ETIQUETTE

1 Peter 3:8,

Phillips

THINK IT THROUGH

❑

Thursday

October 14

"To sum up, you should all be of one mind living like

brothers with true love and sympathy for one another,

generous and courteous at all times."

Training in courtesy and etiquette in many homes is over-

looked as something that belongs only to the rich and the elite

in society. This attitude is the result of a misunderstanding of

courtesy and etiquette. There is much more to etiquette and

courtesy than simply doing the right thing at the right time.

These are social disciplines which express thoughtfulness and

respect to others. To be courteous is to be thoughtful. Eti-

quette codifies thoughtfulness in such a way that it may

become a guide in our treatment of people as we leafn to be

considerate of others. A Christian should be naturally the

most thoughtful person. To teach children courtesy with some

rules of etiquette is to teach them to be thoughtful and con-

siderate of others. "The principles of heaven are to be brought

into the government of the home. Every child is to be taught

to be polite, compassionate, loving, pitiful, courteous, tender-

hearted."—Child

Guidance,

page 143.

What are some rules of etiquette which are valuable

to a Christian? Is it possible for a Christian to be re-

fined? What are some of the ways that a parent can

teach his children how to be courteous?

"The essence of true politeness is

consideration for others. The essen-

tial, enduring education is that which

broadens the sympathies and encour-

ages universal kindliness. That so-

called culture which does not make a

youth deferential toward

his

parents,

appreciative of their excellences, for-

bearing toward their defects, and help-

ful to their necessities; which does not

make him considerate and tender, gen-

erous and helpful toward the young,

the old, and the unfortunate, and cour-

teous toward all is a failure."—"The

Adventist Home," page 423.

"A kind, courteous Christian is the

most powerful argument that can be

produced in favor of Christianity."—

"Gospel Workers," page 122.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY:

"Child Guidance," pages 143-145.

Parents in the Home

LESSON 3

Part 6

HEALTHFUL

LIVING

3 John 2, Phillips

THINK IT THROUGH

❑

Friday

October 15

"My heartfelt prayer for you, my very dear friend, is

that you be as healthy and prosperous in every way as

you are in soul."

What should parents teach their children regarding

their bodies? 1 Cor. 6:19, 20.

Of all the responsibilities which have been overlooked by

parents most frequently is one which pertains to healthful

living. Yet the present and future happiness of their children

depends on their understanding and obeying the rules of health.

Much of the illness which plagues thousands could be avoided

if only, as children, they had been given the right instruction

in health. "The first study of the young should be to know

themselves and how to keep their bodies in health."—Testi-

monies,

Vol. 3, p. 142.

"In the early education of children, many parents and

teachers fail to understand that the greatest attention needs

to be given to the physical constitution, that a healthy condi-

tion of body and brain can be secured.

"The future happiness of your families and the welfare

of society depend largely upon the physical and moral educa-

tion which your children receive in the first years of their life."

—Child Guidance,

page 103.

Why is it difficult to hold to the middle of the road

in discussions relating to health? How can this problem

be rectified? What areas of life does health reform cover?

"Healthful living must be made a

family matter. Parents should awake

to their God-given responsibilities. Let

them study the principles of health re-

form and teach their children that the

path of self-denial is the only path of

safety."—"Child Guidance," page 104.

"Teach your children to study from

cause to effect; show them that if they

violate the laws of their being, they

must pay the penalty by suffering dis-

ease. If in your effort you can see no

special improvement, be not discour-

aged• patiently instruct, line upon line,

precept upon precept, here a little and

there a little. . . . Press on until the

victory is gained. Continue to teach

your children in regard to their own

bodies, and how to take care of them.

Recklessness in regard to bodily health

tends to recklessness in moral charac-

ter."—"Ibid."

FOR FURTHER.STUDY:

"The Ministry of Healing,;" pages 295-310..

Parents in the Home

LESSON 3

Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER

"Home should be a place where

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What is the most important responsibility of parents?

True or False:

A child first learns about God in Sabbath School or church

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religious training

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LESSON 4

October

FINDING JOY IN WORSHIP

"Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain

mercy, and find grace to help in time of need." Heb. 4:16.

The core of Christian experience is found

in worship. If we read our Saviour's life

and works aright, especially the beginning

of the Sermon on the Mount, we find that

one of His chief concerns is for the happi-

ness of those who are called by His name.

Surely, then, the most central experience

of life should be the most joyful. We think

of prayer in its broadest aspects as the chief

expression of worship in the Christian life.

The person who finds the true joy inherent

in the Christian experience will indeed be

able to come boldly, joyfully, to the throne

of grace. Even when coming for mercy and

help, one can find a note of joy from the

assurance that our coming to Him is not

in vain.

This lesson is designed to explore the

possibilities of the family altar as a means

of making the worship of God the truly

thrilling and joyful experience it can and

should be. Whether the home is of a child-

less couple or a large family, the time of

worship can be not only a joyful experi-

ence, but a stabilizing influence as well.

The saying that "The family that prays

together, stays together" is still true. It

may be that the establishment of the family

altar along with faithful attendance at

Sabbath worship services and prayer meet-

ing would do much to bridge the "genera-

tion gap" we hear so much about today.

LESSON OUTLINE

Worship Is Natural to the

Christian

Ps. 95:1, 2, 6, 7

The Need and Place of Worship

in the Home

Job 1:5

The Scriptures and Worship

Ps. 119:105

Preparation for Public Worship

Ex. 20:8-11

Sabbath Worship

Hab. 2:20

Sabbath Opportunities for

Study and Service

Mark 2:27

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LESSON 4

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Sunday

October 17

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Part 1

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"0 come, let us sing unto the Lord: let us make a

WORSHIP IS joyful noise to the Rock of our salvation. Let us come

NATURAL TO before His presence with Thanksgiving, and make a joy-

THE CHRISTIAN ful noise unto Him with psalms."

"0 come, let us worship and bow down: let us kneel

before the Lord our Maker. For He is our God; and we

are the people of His pasture, and the sheep of His

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2, 6, 7

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hand."

There is a joyful note throughout this psalm. What

seems to be the basic reason for joyfulness? Ps. 95:7.

From the very beginning man has worshiped. Worship and

love welled up in the hearts of Adam and Eve even after they

were driven from their Eden home.

"The fallen race were long permitted to gaze upon the

home of innocence, their entrance barred only by the watch-

ing angels. At the cherubim-guarded gate of Paradise the

divine glory was revealed. Hither came Adam and his sons to

worship

God."—Patriarchs and Prophets,

page 62.

Jacob's experience when he was fleeing from his brother's

wrath illustrates man's normal desire to call upon God.

"And Jacob awaked out of his sleep, and he said, Surely

the Lord is in this place; and I knew it not. And he was

afraid, and said, How dreadful is this place! this is none other

but the house of God, and this is the gate of heaven. And Jacob

rose up early in the morning, and took the stone that he had

put for his pillows, and set it up for a pillar, and poured oil

upon the top of it. And he called the name of that place

Bethel. . . . This stone, which I have set for a pillar, shall

be God's house." Gen. 28:16-22.

How does the psalmist symbolize our need for com-

munion with God? Ps. 42:1.

THINK IT THROUGH

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What does it mean to worship? Why does man need

to worship? Is going to church the only way to worship?

"God desires His obedient children

to claim His blessing and to come be-

fore Him with praise and thanksgiving.

. He has done for His chosen people

that which should inspire every heart

with thanksgiving, and it grieves Him

that so little praise is offered. He de-

sires to have a stronger expression

from His people, showing that they

know they have reason for joy and

gladness."---"Testimonies," Vol. 6, page

364.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Great Controversy," pages 433-438; "Patriarchs and

Prophets," page 336; "The Desire of Ages," pages 154-166.

Part 2

THE NEED AND

PLACE OF WORSHIP

IN THE HOME

Job 1:5

THINK IT THROUGH

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Monday

October 18

"Job sent and sanctified them, and rose up early in the

morning, and offered burnt offerings according to the

number of them all."

The experience of Job reveals to all the need and place of

worship in the home. Man is a dependent creature in need of -

assistance in living. We are not only dependent on God for

the air we breathe but also for His protection from danger and

from the forces of evil. Worship is the acknowledgment of this

dependence on God and thanksgiving for God's care over us.

For a Christian home, worship is as essential as the meals and

the shelter that it provides. These provisions are essential for

the physical well-being of the family. Worship is essential for

the spiritual as well as the physical safety of the family.

"Before leaving the house for labor, all the family should

be called together; and the father, or the mother in the fath-

er's absence, should plead fervently with God to keep them

through the day. Come in humility, with a heart full of ten-

derness, and with a sense of the temptations and dangers

before yourselves and your children; by faith bind them upon

the altar, entreating for them the care of the Lord. Ministering

angels will guard children who are thus dedicated to God."

—Child Guidance,

page 519.

What is the Biblical assurance that God will hear and

answer the prayers of parents and children at such ses-

sions of worship? James 5:16?

What are some of the ways by which worship can be

made living and dynamic? What are some of the things

that might discourage a young person in worship?

Finding Joy in Worship

LESSON 4

tians have no family worship. They do

not honor God in the home; they do not

teach their children to love and fear

Him. Many have separated them-

selves so far from Him that they feel

under condemnation in approaching

Him. They cannot 'come boldly unto

the throne of grace,' lifting up holy

hands, without wrath and doubting.'

Hebrews 4:16; 1 Timothy 2:8. They

have not a living connection with God.

Theirs is a form of godliness without

the power."—"Child Guidance," pages

517,518.

"If ever there was a time when

every house should be a house of

prayer, it is now. Infidelity and skep-

ticism prevail. Iniquity abounds. Cor-

ruption flows in the vital currents of

the soul, and rebellion against God

breaks out in the life. Enslaved by sin,

the moral powers are under the tyr-

anny of Satan. The soul is made the

sport of his temptations; and unless

some mighty arm is stretched out to

rescue him, man goes where the arch-

rebel leads the way.

"And yet, in this time of fearful

peril, some who profess to be Chris-

FOR FURTHER

STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 395-401.

Finding Joy in Worship

LESSON 4

Part 3

THE SCRIPTURES

AND WORSHIP

Ps. 119:105

THINK IT THROUGH

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Tuesday

October 19

"Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto

my path."

The Scriptures are a revelation of God and His purpose for

man. In order for a person to know what his life on earth is

to mean he must become acquainted with what God has re-

vealed in the Scriptures. There He has had written for our

good the origins of the human race, the reasons for the crea-

tion of man, and the purpose for life. The reason man has

gone so far astray is that he has thwarted the plan and pur-

pose of God for himself. Man realizes that something is wrong

and is endeavoring in every imaginable way to solve his di-

lemma, in many cases without God. For man to regain his lost

estate he must discover

the

perfect plan of God for His creation

and accept that plan as the guide to abundant living. The Bible

reveals not only the plan but also man's problem and the

solution to his problem. The act of worship, whether family

or public, is the way by which man comes face to face with

the will and love of God as revealed in the Scriptures.

"We all need a guide through the many strait places in life

as much as the sailor needs a pilot over the sandy bar or up

the rocky river, and where is this guide to be found? We point

you, dear brethren, to the Bible. Inspired of God, written by

holy men, it points out with great clearness and precision the

duties of both old and young. . . . Take it as the man of your

counsel, the rule of your daily

life."---Testimonies,

Vol. 5, p.

264.

What does the apostle say the Scriptures are good

for? And to what point will they lead in the fulfillment

of God's plan for man? 2 Tim. 3:16, 17.

Should the Scriptures be considered as a book of in-

structions to be followed like a rule book? In what way

will the Bible help me to find the purpose for my life?

"In arousing and strengthening a

love for Bible study, much depends on

the use of the hour of worship. The

hours of morning and evening wor-

ship should be the sweetest and most

helpful of the day. Let it be understood

that into these hours no troubled, un-

kind thoughts are to intrude; that par-

ents and children assemble to meet

with Jesus, and to invite into the home

the presence of holy angels. . . . Let

all join in the Bible reading and learn

and often repeat God's law. It will add

to the interest of the children if they

are sometimes permitted to select the

reading. Question them upon it, and

let them ask questions. . . .

"To make such a service what it

should be, thought should be given to

preparation. And parents should take

time daily for Bible study with their

children. No doubt it will require effort

and planning and some sacrifice to

accomplish this; but the effort will be

richly repaid."—"Education," page 186.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "Counsels to Teachers," pages 107-118.

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LESSON 4

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Wednesday

October 20

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Part 4

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"Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days

FAMILY WORSHIP, A shalt thou labor, and do all thy work: but the seventh

PREPARATION FOR day is the Sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt

PUBLIC WORSHIP not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter,

thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor

thy stranger that is within thy gates: for in six days the

Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in

them

is,

and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord

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Ex. 20:8-11

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blessed the Sabbath day, and hallowed it."

Thus far we have been discussing the place of worship in the

home. However, family worship is not an end in itself but

moves on to a wider form of worship. Worship in the home

may very easily be seen as a preparation for that expanded

worship we experience in the weekly church services. Much of

the spiritual awareness which may be received in Sabbath wor-

ship can be lost through the week as one pursues his livelihood.

The daily worship at home helps to maintain the spiritual

sensitivity which has been gained at such convocations. It

prepares for the coming Sabbath. Too many wait for the last

fleeting moments of the working .part of the week to prepare

physically and spiritually for the Sabbath. It is no wonder that

little is received by some at worship services. When six days

have been filled only with bargaining, work, and television, the

mind cannot shift so quickly to the spiritual.

For what higher worship does the Sabbath worship

in turn prepare us? Isa. 66:22, 23.

THINK IT THROUGH

"To the humble, believing soul, the house of God on earth

is the gate of heaven. The song of praise, the prayer, the words

spoken by Christ's representatives, are God's appointed agen-

cies to prepare a people for the church above, for that loftier -

worship into which there can enter nothing that defileth."—

Testimonies,

Vol. 5, p. 491.

In what ways does the family worship prepare me

for Sabbath worship? Why does the Bible speak so much

about worship?

"We do not obtain a hundredth part shipers. As you enter the place of wor-

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assembling together to worship God. from your heart. Bring to His house

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"We must carry to every religious crate to Him His own, which He has

gathering a quickened spiritual con-

purchased with the blood of Christ"—

sciousness that God and His angels are "Testimonies," Vol. 6, pp. 362, 363.

there, cooperating with all true wor-

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 6, pp. 349-356.

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LESSON 4

Part 5

SABBATH WORSHIP

Hab. 2:20

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Thursday

October 21

"The Lord is in His holy temple: let all the earth keep

silence before Him."

Prepared by our daily worship and private devotions we

now carry that personal relationship with God with us into

the higher worship on the Sabbath. It is a divine appointment

which should be taken seriously. For we as creatures are to

come before the great God who is our loving Father.

In view of this fact, what attitude should characterize

our conduct in the house of God? Eccl. 5:1.

"If some have to wait a few minutes before the meeting

begins, let them maintain a true spirit of devotion by silent

meditation, keeping the heart uplifted to God in prayer that

the

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service may be of special benefit to their own Heart's and

lead to the conviction and conversion of other

souls."—Testi-

monies,

Vol. 5, p. 492.

What is the parent's responsibility regarding his chil-

dren and church worship?

"Too often children are allowed to grow up without religion

because their parents think they are too young to have Chris-

tian duties enjoined upon them. . . .

"Parents stand in the place of God to their children to tell

them what they must do and what they must not do with

firmness and perfect self-control. Every effort made for them

with kindness and self-control will cultivate in their characters

the elements of firmness and decision. . . .

"Fathers and mothers are in duty bound to settle this ques-

tion early so that the child will no more think of breaking the

Sabbath, neglecting religious worship and family prayer than

he would think of stealing. Parents' own hands must build the

barrier."—The

Adventist Home,

page 320.

THINK IT THROUGH

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Is it true that a family that worships together is in

reality able to solve its differences and problems? Why

is this so?

"The temple of God is opened in

heaven, and the threshold is flushed

with the glory which is for every church

that will love God and keep His corn-

mandments."—"Testimonies," Vol. 6, p.

368.

"Parents, . . . teach them [the chil-

dren] to have the highest reverence for

the house of God and to understand

that when they enter the lord's house

it should be with hearts that are

softened and subdued."—"Ibid.," Vol.

5, p. 494.

FOR FURTHER

STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 6, pp. 356-358.

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Friday

October 22

Part 6

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"And He said unto them, The Sabbath was made for

SABBATH OPPORTU- man, and not man for the Sabbath."

NITIES FORiLLMY

AND SERVICE

THINK IT THROUGH

Is there ever an occasion when one may transgress

the Sabbath commandment and not sin? Matt. 12:11, 12.

Aside from the study of His Word, in what other way

may we know about God? Ps. 19:1.

"We are not to teach our children that they must not be

happy on the Sabbath, that it is wrong to walk out-of-doors.

Oh, no. Christ led His disciples out by the lakeside on the

Sabbath day and taught them. His sermons on the Sabbath

were not always preached within enclosed

walls."—Child

Guidance,

pages 533, 534.

"Teach the children to see Christ in nature. Take them out

into the open air, under the noble trees, into the garden; and

in all the wonderful works of creation teach them to see an

expression of His love. ... Do not weary them with long prayers

and tedious exhortations, but through nature's object lessons

teach them obedience to the law of God."—The

Desire of

Ages,

pages 516, 517.

What are good Sabbath missionary activities? How

can I best use the gift of the Sabbath as a means of

developing my Christian experience and that of my

children?

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LESSON 4

A study of the experience of Christ and His disciples in a

grainfield on the Sabbath brings to mind the greatest lesson

we can learn about the Sabbath.

If the Sabbath was truly made for man, what guidance can

this give us for Sabbath activity? Why was man given a Sab-

bath?

"As the sun goes down, let the voice

of prayer and the hymn of praise mark

the close of the sacred hours and invite

God's presence through the cares of the

week of labor.

"Thus parents can make the Sabbath,

as it should be, the most joyful day of

the week. They can lead their children

to regard it as a delight, the day of

days, the holy of the Lord, honor-

able....

"As long as they live the instruction

given in childhood and youth will be

a blessing."—"Testimonies," Vol. 6, p.

359.

"As God ceased His labor of creat-

ing, and rested upon the Sabbath and

blessed it, so man is to leave the occu-

pations of his daily life, and devote

those sacred hours to healthful rest, to

worship, and to holy deeds."—"The De-

sire of Ages," page 207.

FOR FURTHER

STUDY: "The Ministry of Healitig," pages 409-426.

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LESSON 5

October 30

DISCIPLINE IN THE MODERN HOME

"And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely." Rev. 22:17.

In an age characterized by a general low-

ering of moral standards and a continuing

disregard for law and law enforcement,

parents find value in taking time to think

through the subject of discipline. Here we

have a term used quite commonly by peo-

ple on all levels of society, yet one which

is much misunderstood. While the usual

connotation is that of restraint and force,

to get a valid meaning for discipline we

must see it in its relation to the individual.

A follower requires a leader, and good dis-

cipline is the art of leading.

Wherever there are personal relation-

ships, there must be a place for discipline.

It is for this reason that we should know

what it is and what its objectives are. The

primary objective of the discipline of chil-

dren is to train them for self-government.

It is impossible to think seriously of

training a person for self-government with-

out getting into a discussion of the will.

The training of the will to ensure a per-

son's being able to make intelligent de'ci-

sions should be the first work of parents,

teachers, and others in authority. We shall

spend this week discussing how this idea

of discipline finds a place in the modern

home.

LESSON OUTLINE

Objectives of Discipline

Prov. 22:6

When Should Discipline Begin?

Judges 13:12

Discipline With Consistency

Luke 2:51

When Discipline Corrects

Prov. 13:24

Attitudes in Discipline

Eph. 6:1, 4

Patience in Discipline

Gal. 6:9

Discipline in the Modern Home

LESSON 5

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Sunday

October 24

Part 1

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"Train up a child in the way he shall go: and when

OBJECTIVES OF he is old, he will not depart from it."

DISCIPLINE

Prov. 22:6

How would you distinguish between "training" and

"education"?

"The training of children must be conducted on a different

principle from that which governs the training of irrational

animals. The brute has only to be accustomed to submit to its

master; but the child must be taught to control himself. The

will must be trained to obey the dictates of reason and con-

science. A child may be so disciplined as to have, like the beast,

no will of its own, his individuality being lost in that of his

teacher. Such training is unwise, and its effect disastrous."—

Fundamentals of Christian Education,

page 57.

Is God's government one of coercion? Gen. 2:16,

17; 3:6.

The government of God has no place for coercion. He sets

before us some natural alternatives and then allows us to

choose. Happy the child whose parents help develop in him

this ability to choose.

1).

Give another example of God's dealing with man.

Joshua 24:15.

The child must learn to recognize that in most cases par-

ental restrictions are for his protection. Just as God's love

and His desire for our happiness are the basis for His com-

mandments, so the child must see the parents' love as the

reason for some prohibitions.

THINK IT THROUGH

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The freedom which children, at least adolescents, so

much want lies in the right to make decisions. What

process would you follow to develop this freedom in a

child?

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"The object of discipline is the train-

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should be enlisted on the side of obe-

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ing of the child for self-government.

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dience. Let all dealing with him be such

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He should be taught self-reliance and

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as to show obedience to be just and

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self-control. Therefore as soon as he is

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reasonable."—"Education," page 287.

capable of understanding, his reason

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 223-228.

Part 2

WHEN SHOULD

DISCIPLINE BEGIN?

Judges 13:12

THINK IT THROUGH

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Monday

October 25

"And Manoah said, Now let thy words come to pass.

How shall we order the child, and how shall we do unto

him?"

The question Manoah asked typifies the most important

concern a parent may have. It is strange that schools "compass

heaven and earth" for subjects to teach children, but largely

neglect the one profession that the majority enter—parenthood.

It is perhaps significant that the angel's reply to Manoah's

question dealt largely with the conduct. Can you think of

some problems prospective parents should solve in their own

lives before the child is born?

What family problem is represented among the signs

of the last days? 2 Tim. 3:2.

The timing of disciplinary training in the growth of the child

is of utmost importance. When should this training begin?

"The moment that the child begins to choose his own will

and way, that moment his education in discipline is to begin.

This may be called an unconscious education. It is then that

a work, conscious and powerful, is to

begin."—Child. Guidance,

page 230.

What part do parents play in the child's choice con-

cerning salvation?

"It is because so many parents and teachers profess to

believe the Word of God while their lives deny its power, that

the teaching of Scripture has no greater effect upon the youth."

—Education,

page 259.

What relationship does the child's obedience to par-

ents have to future obedience to the law of God?

Discipline in the Modern Home

LESSON 5

own will. Some who go astray because

of neglect in childhood will later,

through the inculcation of practical les-•

sons, come to their senses; but many

are lost forever because in childhood

and youth they received only a partial,

one-sided culture. The child who is

spoiled has a heavy burden to carry

throughout his life."—"Counsels to

Teachers," page 112.

"Parents, you fail generally to begin

your work early enough. You let Satan

preoccupy the soil of the heart by put-

ting in the first crop of seed.

"You have a work to do that Satan

shall not gain the control of your chil-

dren and take them away from you

before they are out of your arms."—

"Child Guidance," page 195.

"It is impossible to depict the evil

that results from leaving a child to its

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"Child Guidance," pages 229-232.

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LESSON 5

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Tuesday

October 26

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Part 3

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"And He went down with them, and came to Naza-

DISCIPLINE WTH reth, and was subject unto them: but His mother kept

CONSISTENCY all these sayings in her heart."

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Luke 2:51

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In today's world, with the emphasis on freedom of choice

and the importance of individual growth, the question of dis-

cipline and its relevancy demands serious consideration. That

discipline is best which prepares for self-government and aids

individual development.

"It is the work of true education to . . . train the youth to

be thinkers, and not mere reflectors of other men's thought.

Instead of confining their study to that which men have said

or written, let students be directed to the sources of truth, to

the vast fields opened for research in nature and revelation.

Let them contemplate the great facts of duty and destiny,

and the mind will expand and

strengthen."—Education,

page 17.

What inconsistency is shown in the experience of Isaac

and Rebekah in dealing with their children? Genesis 27

and 28.

"If the parents are united in this work of discipline, the

child will understand what is required of him. But if the

father, by word or look, shows that he does not approve of

the discipline the mother gives, if he feels that she is too

strict, and thinks that he must make up for the harshness by

petting and indulgence, the child will be ruined. . . . Parents

who are committing this sin against their children are accoun-

table for the ruin of their

souls."—Child Guidance,

page 239..

How did compromise as a "proof" of love work out

in the experience of Aaron? Lev. 10:1, 2.

THINK IT THROUGH

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In what ways might parental affection be an obstacle

to true training?

"Aaron's criminal neglect to com-

mand the respect and reverence of his

sons resulted in their death. . . .

"Here is seen the result of loose dis-

cipline. As these sons of Aaron had not

been educated to respect and reverence

the commands of their father, as they

disregarded parental authority, they

did not realize the necessity of ex-

plicitly following the requirements of

God."—"Testimonies," Vol. 3, pp.

294,

295.

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"Child Guidance," pages 233-243.

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LESSON 5

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Wednesday

October 27

Part 4

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"He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that

WHEN DISCIPLINE loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

Prov. 13:24

CORRECTS

subject of considerable controversy. No doubt a connection is

This bit of wisdom from the Proverbs is in modern times a

made in the minds of many with the chastening of the Lord.

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THINK IT THROUGH

What purposes do you see in either parental or heav-

enly chastening? Heb. 12:5-11.

"The work of 'breaking the will' is contrary to the principles

of Christ. The will of the child must be directed and guided.

Save all the strength of the will, for the human being needs

it all; but give it proper direction. Treat it wisely and ten-

derly, as a sacred treasure. Do not hammer it in pieces; but

by precept and true example wisely fashion and mold it until

the child comes to years of responsibility."—Counsels

Teachers,

page 116.

While there does seem to be a possible connection between

pain and obedience, at least in the small child, the parent faces

the responsibility of determining when his demands are the

result of his own whims and when they are essential to the

child's welfare. We must be sure our correction of children is

not more for ourselves than for the children.

"Never correct your child in anger. An exhibition of passion

on your part will not cure your child's evil temper. That is

the time of all times when you should act with humility and

patience and prayer. Then is the time to kneel down with the

children and ask the Lord for pardon."—Ibid., p. 117.

"Parents have a great work to do in the matter of

correcting and training their children, and in bringing

them to God, and claiming His blessing upon them."

—"Ibid.," page 118.

"If milder measures prove insuffi-

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training, and the consequent strength-

cient, punishment that will bring the

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ening of wrong tendencies, makes his

child to its senses should in love be

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after education more difficult, and

administered. Frequently one such cor-

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causes discipline to .be too often a pain-

rection will be enough for a lifetime,

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ful process. Painful it must 'be to the

to show the child that he does not hold

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lower nature, crossing, as it does, the

the lines of control."—"Counsels to

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natural desires and inclinations."—"Ed-

Teachers," page 116.

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ucation," pages 295, 296.

"The neglect of the child's earliest

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 244-257.

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Discipline in the Modern Home

LESSON 5

Part 5

ATTITUDES IN

DISCIPLINE

Eph. 6:1, 4

❑

Thursday

October 28

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is

right." "And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to

wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition

of the Lord."

It should ever be remembered that the child's obedience to

the parent is qualified—"in the Lord." There may come a

time in a child's life when obedience to God will necessitate

the breaking of the family tie. But the parent also has a re-

sponsibility to ensure that his correction is always a step

toward development of a Christian character.

There should be a purpose in all activity related to the

home and children.

"The true teacher is not satisfied with second-rate work.

. . . He cannot be content with imparting to them only tech-

nical knowledge, with making them merely clever accountants,

skillful artisans, successful tradesmen. It is his ambition to

inspire them with principles of truth, obedience, honor, in-

tegrity, and purity—principles that will make them a positive

force for the stability and uplifting of society. He desires

them, above all else, to learn life's great lesson of unselfish

service."—Education,

pages 29, 30.

Perhaps the most difficult question in discipline, especially

when it includes correction and punishment, is that of parental

attitude. What two ingredients are pointed out as essential in

the attitude of the parent?

"Love has a twin sister, which is duty. Love and duty stand

side by side. Love exercised while duty is neglected will make

children headstrong, willful, perverse, selfish, and disobedient.

If stern duty is left to stand alone without love to soften and

win, it will have a similar result. Duty and love must be

blended in order that children may be properly disciplined."

—Testimonies,

Vol.

p. 195.

Should children be recognized as some of the "others"

mentioned in the golden rule? Does this mean they should

get the same treatment as parents? Luke 6:31.

THINK IT THROUGH

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Justice and mercy are twin sisters who stand side by

side and should not be separated.

"God's method of government is an

example of how children are to be

trained. There is no oppression in the

Lord's service, and there is to be no

oppression in the home or in the school.

Yet neither parents nor teachers should

allow disregard of their word to pass

unnoticed. Should they neglect to cor-

rect the children for doing wrong, God

will hold them accountable for their

neglect. But let them be sparing of

censure. 'Let kindness be the law of the

home and of the school."—"Counsels

to Teachers," page 155.

FOR FURTHER

STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 258-268.

Discipline in the Modern Home

LESSON 5

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❑

Friday

October 29

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Part 6

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"And let us not be weary in well-doing: for in due

PATIENCE IN season we shall reap, if we faint not."

DISCIPLINE

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Gal. 6:9

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the work we do outside the family circle. We fail to see our

So many times we reserve the promises of God's Word for

own home as the first and greatest mission field the world

affords. Which do you think would add more members to the

church, all of our children in the church, or the fruit of public

evangelism? Should we give more attention to both?

THINK IT THROUGH

In the first commandment with promise, is there some

responsibility on the part of the parent to be worthy of

the honor due him? Ex. 20:12.

What is said about the wisdom and strength we need

for the duty we must perform? John 15:5.

"Let not one word of fretfulness, harshness, or passion

escape your lips. The grace of Christ awaits your demand. His

Spirit will take control of your heart and conscience, presiding

over your words and deeds. Never forfeit your self-respect by

hasty, thoughtless words. See that your words are pure, your

conversation holy. . . . Let there be peace, pleasant words,

and cheerful countenances.

"Parents cannot with safety be in any way overbearing.

They must not show a masterly, criticizing, faultfinding spirit.

. . . Patient continuance in well-doing is essential if you would

do your duty to your children."—Child

Guidance,

page 219.

What are some of the ways a child may honor his

parents? Summarize your thoughts on true discipline as

you consider the Christian's duty to present to the world

well-ordered, well-disciplined families—families that will

show the power of true Christianity.

"In our efforts to correct evil, we

should guard against a tendency to

faultfinding or censure. Continual cen-

sure bewilders, but does not reform.

With many minds, and often those of

the finest susceptibility, an atmosphere

of unsympathetic criticism is fatal to

effort. Flowers do not unfold under the

breath of a blighting wind."—"Educa-

tion," page 291.

"Parents should keep ever before

their minds the object to be gained—

the perfection of the characters of their

children. Those parents who educate

their children aright, weeding from

their lives every unruly trait, are fitting

them to become missionaries for Christ

in truth, in righteousness, in holiness."

—"Counsels to Teachers," page 162.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 279-287.

Discipline in the Modern Home

LESSON 5

Part 7 0 SUMMARY QUESTIONS

TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER

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result?

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MAKING SPIRITUAL VALUES RELEVANT

LESSON 6

November 6

"And this is life eternal, that they might know Thee the only true God, and

Jesus Christ, whom Thou hast sent." John 17:3.

God wants us to know Him. That is why

He desires to live with us and in us. He,

the Source of all life, has three dwelling

places: Heaven is His throne, the center

of His universe (Ps. 103:19) ; a church

built by man and dedicated to God is His

sanctuary where He can meet with His

people (Ex. 25:8) ; but the human body

enables Him to have a daily, personal

touch with each individual (1 Cor. 3:16,

17). Spiritual things are conceived in the

mind. "The brain nerves which communi-

cate with the entire system are the only

medium through which Heaven can com-

municate to man and affect his inmost

life."—Testimonies,

Vol. 2, p. 347. We

think about what we see, hear, taste, smell,

and feel. "All should guard the senses, lest

Satan gain victory over them; for these

are the avenues to the

soul."—Ibid.,

Vol. 3,

p. 507.

KEY THOUGHTS

Spiritual Values Are Real.

To some

the word "spiritual" seems so ambiguous,

so vague, so completely divorced from

reality that it is meaningless. The aim of

this study is to see how spirituality is re-

lated to daily living. A spiritual family is

an active, working family. It is not a pas-

sive group; it is not people in a trance. It

is cheerful and happy company, not sad

and gloomy association.

How to Live.

Christ must live in me.

Col. 1:27. If Christ is in me, I will be a

delightful person in the home. All my fac-

ulties will be used to enrich and benefit

others. I will do my best to love them more

than they love me.

How to Die.

I live for self. The more

I think of my rights, my needs, my desires,

the less I will think of Christ. The less I

think of Him, the more selfish I become.

Selfishness cuts off my connection with the

Source of life. Rom. 8:6.

LESSON OUTLINE

The Mind

Prov. 23:7

The Sense of Sight

2 Cor. 3:18

The Sense of Hearing

Luke 8:17, 18

The Sense of Taste

Ps. 136:25

The Sense of Smell

Ps. 45:8

The Sense of Touch

Luke 15:20

Part 1

THE MIND

Prov. 23:7

❑

Sunday

October 31

"For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he."

"Even the thoughts are not to be allowed to run riot. They

must be restrained, brought into captivity to the obedience

of Christ."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 491. "The great

deceiver hopes so to confuse the minds of men and women

that none but his voice will be •

heard."—Medical Ministry,

page 111. Ignorance of the Scriptures causes confusion, but

"the entrance of Thy words giveth light; it giveth understand-

ing unto the simple." Ps. 119:130.

God has given to man the governing power of decision.

"Everything depends on the right action of the will. . . .

Many will go down to ruin while hoping and desiring to over-

come their evil propensities. . . . They do not

choose

to serve

Him."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 176. No one can blame

Satan, the relatives, or the neighbors for his own sin. "No man

without his own consent can be overcome by Satan. The

tempter has no power to control the will or to force the soul

sin."—The Great Controversy,

page 510.

Making Spiritual Values Relevant

LESSON 6

How does one control his thinking and keep his mind

alert? Ps. 19:7.

The emotions, good or bad, have a tremendous effect on the

mind. "The depressing and even ruinous effect of anger, dis-

content, selfishness, or impurity, and, on the other hand, the

marvelous life-giving power to be found in cheerfulness, un-

selfishness, gratitude, should also be

shown."—Education,

page

197. Watching TV too much or reading aimlessly causes the

mind to become weak and inactive. "Castle-building depraves

the

mind."—Testimonies,

Vol. 2, p. 429. "Many an inmate of

the insane asylum, has become such through the habit of novel

reading."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 446.

Parents are to train their children in the use of their mental

powers. "It is during the first years of a child's life that his

mind is most susceptible to impressions either good or evil.

During these years decided progress is made in either a right

direction or a wrong

one."—Counsels to Teachers,

page 132.

"The mother must be mind for her child. The first three years

is the time in which to bend the tiny

twig."—Child Guidance,

page 194.

THINK IT THROUGH

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Who is responsible for the thoughts I think? Why do

I think the thoughts I do?

"You will have to become a faithful mind and prevent vain and corrupt

sentinel over your eyes, ears, and all



thoughts from staining your soul."—

your senses if you would control your "Testimonies," Vol. 2, p. 561.

FOR FURTHER

STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 4, pp. 202, 499; Vol. 3, pp. 133, 134;

Vol. 7, p. 168.

Part 2

THE SENSE

OF SIGHT

2 Cor. 3:18

❑

Monday

November I

"But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass

the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image

from glory to glory even as by the Spirit of the Lord."

The Christian home will be attractive, and will create a

love for the beautiful. "God loves the beautiful. . . . He desires

us to surround our homes with the beauty of natural things."

—The Ministry of Healing,

page 370. The colors should har-

monize; the house must be clean and orderly, with everything

in its place when not in use. Pictures, curtains, and decorations

add loveliness and beauty; plants and flowers, fragrance and

charm. The home should be inviting to each member of the

family—a cozy place in which to live and relax, not a museum

to be observed only.

Making Spiritual Values Relevant

LESSON 6

What admonition should govern all aspects of a

Christian home? 1 Cor. 14:40.

Since we think about that which we see, the TV programs,

photos, and pictures should be selected to create respect for

man and reverence for God. Books, magazines, and other read-

ing materials will be chosen to bring pleasure, enrich knowl-

edge, and inspire each member of the family.

The facial expression reveals our emotions. That smile on

the face says plainly, "Christ is in the heart."

"Smile, parents; smile, teachers. If your heart is sad, let

not your face reveal the

fact."—Child Guidance,

page 148.

A neat and tidy appearance is attractive to our loved ones.

It is very hard for a wife who looks sad, disheartened, and

unkempt to be the queen of the home. When love is in the

heart, the whole appearance is attractive.

THINK IT THROUGH

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Does my home look like a Christian home?

"While there are weighty responsi-

bilities devolving upon the parents to

guard carefully the future happiness

and interests of their children, it is also

their duty to make home as attractive

as possible."—"The Adventist Home,"

page 21.

"The home should be to the children

the most attractive place in the world,

and the mother's presence should be

its greatest attraction."—"The Ministry

of Healing," page 388.

"While we are to guard against

needless adornment and display, we

are in no case to be careless and in-

different in regard to outward appear-

ance. All about our persons and our

homes is to be neat and attractive."

—"The Adventist Home," page 22.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies to Ministers," pages 388-390; "Christ's Object

Lessons," page 67.

Making Spiritual Values Relevant

LESSON 6



Tuesday

November 2



Part 3

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"For nothing is secret, that shall not be made mani-

THE SENSE OF fest; neither anything hid, that shall not be known and

HEARING come abroad. Take heed therefore how ye hear."

Luke 8:17, 18

What kind of words are to be spoken in the home?

"Let only pleasant words be spoken by parents to their

children, and respectful words by children to their parents.

Attention must be given to these things in the home life."—

The Adventist Home,

page 437.

The tone of voice means everything. The Christian's voice

should be cheerful, courageous, and inspiring. "There will be

no loud, angry talking in the home. The words will be of a

character to soothe and bless the hearer. . . . Take all the

ugly features out of the voice."—Ibid., p. 436.

How important is it that we place a close watch on

our conversations? Matt. 12:37.

Words are the photographs of the character. Words become

a part of us. The daily conversation in the home gives a

clearer picture of one's true character than a premeditated

speech. "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speak-

eth." Matt. 12:34.

There are other sounds in the home which must be guarded.

While the TV, radio, and record player make it possible to

bring some of the best music into the home, these media are

also capable of bringing the worst. "Music, when not abused,

is a great blessing; but when put to a wrong use, it is a

terrible

curse."—Testimonies,

Vol. 1, p. 497.

Parents, and not inexperienced youth, are the ones to select

the music of the home. Children must be taught how to choose,

and parents should see that their children hear good music

that is appropriate to their ages.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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Does my home sound like a Christian home?

"The value of song as a means of

education should never be lost sight of.

Let there be singing in the home, of

songs that are sweet and pure, and

there will be fewer words of censure

and more of cheerfulness and hope

and joy."—"Education," page 168.

"Evening and morning join with your

children in God's worship, reading His

Word and singing His praise."—"Evan-

gelism," page 499.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 406-409; "Education," page

21; "Patriarchs and Prophets," page 51.

Making Spiritual Values Relevant

LESSON 6

Part 4

THE SENSE OF TASTE

Ps. 136:25

❑

Wednesday

November 3

"Who giveth food to all flesh: for His mercy endureth

forever."

The dining table offers delightful ways of learning about

the goodness of God. All our needs will be supplied (Phil.

4:19) ; our bread and water will be sure (Isa. 33:16) ; He is

the giver of all good and perfect gifts (James 1:17). We bow

our heads and thank Him for all His bounties. God put flavor

in food and •taste buds in our mouths that we might enjoy

food. He is honored when good, wholesome food is served in

an appetizing manner to a happy, thankful family.

In what frame of mind should the meals be eaten?

Prov. 17:22.

"Let mealtime be a cheerful, happy time. As we enjoy the

gifts of God, let us respond by grateful praise to the Giver."

—The Ministry of Healing,

page 385.

"Regularity in eating should be carefully observed. Nothing

should be eaten between meals, no confectionery, nuts, fruits,

or food of any kind. Irregularities in eating destroy the health-

ful tone of the digestive organs, to the detriment of health

and cheerfulness."—Ibid., p. 384.

"Parents should train the appetites of their children, and

should not permit the use of unwholesome foods. But in the

effort to regulate the diet, we should •be careful not to err in

requiring children to eat that which is distasteful, or to eat

more than is needed. Children have rights, they have prefer-

ences, and when these preferences are reasonable they should

be respected."—/bid.

"It is a religious duty for those who cook to learn how to

prepare healthful food in different ways, so that it may be

eaten with

enjoyment."—Testimonies,

Vol. 1, p. 682.

What indicates that man's original diet was balanced

for his enjoyment? Gen. 6:21.

THINK IT THROUGH

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What importance is given to the culinary arts and

dietetic requirements in my home?

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"Mothers should teach their children

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making organs. It is highly essential

how to cook. What branch of the edu-

that the art of cookery be considered

cation of a young lady can be so im-

one of the most important branches of

portant as this? The eating has to do education. . . . Knowledge of how to

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with the life. Scanty, impoverished, ill-

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prepare food healthfully, especially

cooked food is constantly depraving bread, is no mean science."—"Testi-

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the blood by weakening the blood-

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monies," Vol. 1, p. 682.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 2, pp. 69, 383, 487, 488; Vol. 1, pp.

486, 681.

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Making Spiritual Values Relevant

LESSON 6.

Part 5

THE SENSE OF SMELL

Ps. 45:8

❑

Thursday

November 4

"All thy garments smell of myrrh, and aloes, and

cassia, out of the ivory palaces, whereby they have

made thee glad."

There is a clean fresh smell around the 'Christian home that

invites the angels. God perfumed the air and gave nostrils to

man to add to his joy. Man's first home was amid majestic

trees, graceful shrubs, and delicate flowers. Homes surrounded

with flowers and fragrant blossoms create a desire to live.

"Cleanliness, neatness, and order are indispensable to the

proper management of the household. . . .

"Believers should be taught that even though they may be

poor, they need not be unclean or untidy in their persons or

in their homes. . . . They are to be taught that those who are

to represent the high and holy God must keep their souls pure

and clean, and that this purity must extend to their dress and

to everything in the home."—The

Adventist Home,

pages

21, 22.

How can one avoid air pollution?

With so much tobacco smoke indoors and fumes from auto-

mobiles and factories outdoors, the air around our large cities

is becoming more and more polluted. "Whenever possible, it

is the duty of parents to make homes in the country for their

children."—Country

Living,

page 12. "Fathers and mothers

who possess a piece of land and a comfortable home are kings

and

queens."—Fundamentals of Christian. Education,

page

327.

"The physical surroundings in the cities are often a peril to

health. The constant liability to contact with disease, the prev-

alence of foul air, impure water, impure food, the crowded,

dark, unhealthful dwellings, are some of the many evils to be

met."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 365.

Why did the tabernacle have an altar of sweet in-

cense? 'Ex. 30:1, 7, 8; 37:29.

THINK IT THROUGH



Does my home have the fragrance of a Christian

home?

"The home of our first parents was

to be a pattern for other homes as their

children should go forth to occupy the

earth. That home, beautified by the

hand of God Himself, was not a gor-

geous palace. . . . God placed Adam

in a garden. This was his dwelling.

The blue heavens were its dome; the

earth, with its delicate flowers and car-

pet of living green, was its floor; and

the leafy branches of the goodly trees

were its canopy."—"Patriarchs and

Prophets," page 49.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 279, 280; "Testimonies,"

Vol. 6, p. 170.

Making Spiritual Values Relevant

LESSON 6

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❑

Friday

November 5

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Part 6

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"When he was yet a great way off, his father saw

THE SENSE OF him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck,

TOUCH and kissed him."

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Luke 15:20

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The sweetest way to expressing love is through the sense of

touch. Touching the hand, lips, embracing the companion,

draws husband and wife closer to each other and closer to

God. The sense of touch should not be divorced from love,

nor should it be used wholly independently of the other four

senses.

When and why should parents touch their children?

The baby needs to be rocked, cuddled, and held in the arms.

This is one reason why breast-fed babies do better as a rule

than those who are bottle-fed. The toddler needs a lap to

hold him when he is tired or lonesome. The nervous, restless

child is often soothed into slumber by the gentle touch of

mother's hand on his spine. Teen-agers need to feel father's

strong arm about them, mother's loving kiss to assure them

their parents still love and appreciate them.

What kind of "touch" therapy do children need at

times? Prov. 19:18.

"A great wrong is done our children when we permit their

faults to go uncorrected."—Child

Guidance,

page 236. This

form of touching is unique. When administered in love it

corrects a fault, strengthens the child's willpower and draws

the child closer to his parent. When given in anger it creates

resentment, makes the child rebellious, and builds a wall be-

tween parent and child.

All punishment is for the future, not the past. We are seek-

ing to help the child develop self-control.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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How can I cultivate love in my home?

"There are many who regard the sion. Let not the heart of one connected

expression of love as a weakness, and with you starve for the want of kind-

they maintain a reserve that repels

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ness and sympathy. . . . Continue the

others. This spirit checks the current of

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early attentions. In every way encour-

sympathy. As the social and generous

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age each other in fighting the battles

impulses are repressed, they wither,

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of life. Study to advance the happiness

and the heart becomes desolate and

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of each other. 'Let there be mutual love,

cold. We should beware of this error.

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mutual forbearance.—"The Ministry of

Love cannot long exist without expres-

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Healing," page 360.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol.

p. 224; Vol. 5, pp. 123, 124; Vol. 7,

pp. 49, 50.

Making Spiritual Values Relevant

LESSON 6

Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER

1. "The thoughts . . . must be

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to the

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of Christ."

2. True or False:

The Christian home will be attractive

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A Christian's face is always solemn

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Neatness has little to do with one's character

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Mealtime is the time to eat, not talk

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Mealtime is the time to be cheerful

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Children should be forced to eat what is good for them

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Children should be allowed within reason to select what they de-

sire

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5. How can one avoid air pollution?

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as a weakness?

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LESSON 7

"And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole

spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord

Jesus Christ." 1 Thess. 5:23.

No discussion of education could be

fruitful if we failed to think first of its

primary objective. The knowledge of God

and Christ is the final reason for educa-

tion. "Higher than the highest human

thought can reach is God's ideal for His

children. Godliness—godlikeness—is the

goal to be

reached."—Education,

page 18.

There need be no limit to our ambition in

the matter of education, so long as it is

tempered by this supreme objective.

The home and the school have no more

important function than inspiring the

youth to develop every talent and ability

to its highest level, that they may be used

in the service of God. Great care must be

taken in talking about self-abnegation, lest

the impression be given that we should

make no effort to be people of value to

the world. There is a definite place for

recognizing the true position of self, but

never should it obscure the fact that we

were created in the image of God, and

that we have a duty to develop God-given

faculties.

It is important also to recognize what

teaching really is. We would distort the

true picture of the teacher should we por-

tray him as one who ceaselessly pours into

unwilling minds vast numbers of facts.

The teacher, be it the mother in the home

or the instructor in the school, serves as

a guide in multitudes of learning experi-

ences. The learning has to be a personal

experience. Parents who take their teach-

ing responsibilities seriously will remember

that teaching is both voluntary and in-

voluntary. The child learns from example

as well as precept.

LESSON OUTLINE

1. Home, the Foundation for

Education

Luke 1:80

2. The First School

Deut. 6:6, 7

3. Educating the Whole Person

1 Thess. 5:23

4. Importance of a Trade

2 Kings 6:1, 2

5. Make Scripture Basic

Prov. 2:1-5

6. God's Second Book

Isa. 40:28-31

The Home—Primary Center of Education

LESSON 7

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Sunday

November 7

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Part 1

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"And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and

HOME, THE was in the deserts till the day of his showing unto Israel."

FOUNDATION

FOR EDUCATION

Luke 1:80

wisdom, the Lord planned that John would receive his educa-

tion. The home was his school, and the vastness of the desert

The parents of John lived in the country, where, in His

his opportunity to become acquainted with God.

Not all parents today are required to live in the desert, but

every parent should recognize a distinct obligation to make

the home the first school of the child. In effect, the home is

the matrix where are molded the values that will be held later,

and where is developed the personality which will mark the

child in his mature years.

What advice did Paul give to parents with respect to

their children? Eph. 6:4.

The home should be the base for educating children.

"It is in the home that the education of the child is to

begin. Here is his first school. Here, with his parents as in-

structors, he is to learn the lessons that are to guide him

throughout life—lessons of respect, obedience, reverence, self-

control. The educational influences of the home are a decided

power for good or for evil. . . . If the child is not instructed

aright here, Satan will educate him through agencies of his

choosing."—Counsels

to Teachers,

page 107.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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What kind of setting have I provided for the charac-

ters my children are forming?

"Jesus came to this earth to accom-

plish the greatest work ever accom-

plished among men. He came as God's

ambassador, to show us how to live

so as to secure life's best results. What

were the conditions chosen by the in-

finite Father for His Son? A secluded

home in the Galilean hills; a household

sustained by honest, self-respecting

labor; a life of simplicity; daily conflict

with difficulty and hardship; self-sacri-

fice, economy, and patient, gladsome

service; the hour of study at His moth-

er's side, with the open scroll of Scrip-

ture . . . —these were the conditions

and opportunities of the early life of

Jesus."—"The Ministry of Healing,"

pages 365,366.

"John was the son of their old age,

he was a child of miracle, and the par-

ents might have reasoned that he had

a special work to do for the Lord and

the Lord would take care of him. But

the parents did not thus reason; they

moved to a retired place in the country,

where their son would not be exposed

to the temptations of city life, or in-

duced to depart from the counsel and

instruction which they as parents would

give him. They acted their part in de-

veloping a character in the child that

would in every way meet the purpose

for which God had designed his life....

They sacredly fulfilled their obligation."

—"Child Guidance," page 23.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home ," pages 177-186.

Part 2

THE FIRST

SCHOOL

Deut. 6:6, 7

THINK IT THROUGH

El Monday

November 8

"And these words, which I command thee this day,

shall be in thine heart: and thou shalt teach them dili-

gently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when

thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by

the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou

risest up."

Whether by design of the parents or not, the home is by its

very nature the child's first school. The attitude of the parents

toward each other and toward the children, and indeed in

relation to all men, cannot be hidden from the child. The

parents also have the advantage, as teachers, of being with the

children in all of the basic activities of life, and have a won-

derful opportunity to tie lessons designed for spiritual growth

into the everyday activities.

What are some of the lessons the child should learn,

beyond the stories of the Bible?

"Teach the children and youth to respect themselves, to be

true to God, true to principle; teach them to respect and obey

the law of God."—The

Adventist Home,

page 16.

Review the lives of some of the great men of the Bible,

thinking of the time spent with their mothers as a part of their

preparation for their life work. Moses (Ex. 2:9, 10). Samuel

(1 Sam. 1:24-28). Notice how Zacharias and Elisabeth met

their responsibilities (Luke 1:5-15, 57-63).

"An angel from heaven came to instruct Zacharias and

Elisabeth as to how they should train and educate their child,

so as to work in harmony with God in preparing a messenger

to announce the coming of Christ. As parents they were to

faithfully cooperate with God in forming such a character

in John as would fit him to perform the part God had as-

signed him as a competent worker. . . .

"They acted their part in developing a character in the

child that would in every way meet the purpose for which

God had designed his

life."—Child Guidance,

pages 22, 23.

How can I learn to associate spiritual lessons with

the daily experiences of life?

The Home—Primary Center of Education

LESSON 7

"Let not home education be regarded

as a secondary matter. It occupies the

first place in all true education. Fathers

and mothers have entrusted to them

the molding of their children's minds."

"Child Guidance," page 18.

"In the divine plan of education as

adapted to man's condition after the

FOR 'FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance,"

Fall, Christ stands as the representative

of the Father, the connecting link be-

tween God and man; He is the great

Teacher of mankind. And He ordained

that men and women should be His

representatives. The family was the

school, and the parents were the teach-

ers."—"Education," page 33.

pages 17-25.

The Home—Primary Center of Education

LESSON 7

Part 3

EDUCATING THE

WHOLE PERSON

1 Thess. 5:23

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Tuesday

November

"And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and

I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be pre-

served blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus

Christ."

The best way to find the complete sanctification for which

Paul prayed is through the learning process that must begin

early in life.

"Let those composing the family circle pray that God will

sanctify their tongues, their ears, their eyes, and every member

of their body. ...

"How many dishonor Christ and misrepresent His char-

acter in the home circle! How many do not manifest patience,

forbearance, forgiveness, and true love

!"—The Adventist Home,

pages 177, 178.

How is the development of the young Jesus de-

scribed? Luke 2:52.

"Children and youth should begin early to seek •God; for

early habits and impressions will frequently exert a powerful

influence upon the life and character. . . . Be careful how you

build, and what kind of material you put into the building.

The characters you are now forming will be lasting as eternity.

"Let Jesus take possession of your mind, your heart, and

your affections; and work as Christ worked, doing conscien-

tiously the home duties, little acts of self-denial and deeds

of kindness, employing the moments diligently, keeping a

careful watch against little sins and a grateful heart for little

blessings, and you will have at last such a testimony for

yourself as was given of . . . Christ: 'And Jesus increased in

wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and

man."—Ibid.,

p. 297.

THINK IT THROUGH

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How may I be sure that I am following God's plan in

directing the growth and development of my children?

"Though He increased in knowldege,

and the grace of God was upon Him,

yet He did not become lifted up in

pride, or feel that He was above doing

the most humble toil. He took His share

of the burden, together with His father,

mother, and brethren. He toiled to sus-

tain the family, and shared in

the

work

that would meet the expenses of the

household. Though His wisdom had as-

tonished the doctors, yet He meekly

subjected Himself to His human guard-

ians, bore His part of the family bur-

dens, and worked with His own hands

as any toiler would work."—Ellen G.

White Comments, "SDA Bible Com-

mentary," Vol. 5, p. 1117.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Sanctified Life," pages 7-14.

The Home—Primary Center of Education

LESSON 7

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Wednesday

November 10

"And the sons of the prophets said unto Elisha, Be-

hold now, the place where we dwell with thee is too

strait for us. Let us go, we pray thee, unto Jordan, and

take thence every man a beam, and let us make us a

place there, where we may dwell. And he answered,

Go ye."

In the education of the Israelites, much attention was given

to training each child in some practical trade. No matter what

role he might follow in later life, he was always capable of

supporting himself by his hands.

Part 4

IMPORTANCE

OF A TRADE

2'Kings 6:1, 2

What is said about the necessity of teaching the youth

the dignity of labor?

"It [labor] is still a source of happiness and development.

. . . The youth should be led to see the true dignity of la-

bor. . . . All things in nature do •their allotted work. Action

pervades the whole creation, and in order to fulfill our mis-

sion we, too, must be

active."—Education,

page 214.

Men of •the Bible who worked with their hands:

David—a shepherd boy

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Paul—a tentmaker

Moses—a sheepherder

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Gideon—a farmer

Noah—a shipwright

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Peter—a fisherman

Jesus—a carpenter

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Abel—a shepherd

Jacob—a stockman

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Elisha—a farmer

Women of the Bible who worked at menial tasks:

Martha—a cook and housekeeper Miriam—a baby-sitter

Dorcas—a seamstress

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Rebecca—a water carrier

Ruth—a gleaner

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Rachel—a sheepherder

Can you think of others? How do you think manual labor

prepared these people for their later work?

What specific result mentioned comes to those who

till the fields? Isa. 28:23-26.

THINK IT THROUGH

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How might I make my example and conversation

such as to glorify the meaning of work to my children?

"The minister, the missionary, the

teacher, will find their influences with

the people greatly increased when it

is manifest that they possess the knowl-

edge and skill required for the prac-

tical duties of everyday life. . . . The

ability to prepare food, to deal with

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"Education," pages 214, 222.

accidents and emergencies, to treat

disease, to build a house, or a church

if need be—often these make all the

difference between success and failure

in his lifework."—"Education," page

221.

The Home—Primary Center of Education

LESSON 7

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Thursday

November 11

Part 5

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"My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide

MAKES SCRIPTURE my commandments with thee; so that thou incline thine

BASIC ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understand-

ing; . . . then shalt thou understand the fear of the

Prov. 2:1-5 Lord, and find the knowledge of God."

This lesson points to a knowledge of God as the end and

purpose of education. This is the true wisdom which should

motivate all our educational effort. While we cannot forget

the necessity of learning in many fields in order to take our

place in this complex world, we must never lose sight of the

basic nature of Scripture as the foundation for other studies.

"The knowledge of God and of Jesus Christ expressed in

character is an exaltation above everything else that is esteemed

on earth or in heaven. It is the very highest education. It is

the key that opens the portals of the heavenly city. This knowl-

edge it is God's purpose that all who put on Christ shall pos-

sess."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 457.

What is another reason for making a study of Scrip-

ture basic in the experience of the child, and a genuine

practice in the home? Ps. 119:11.

THINK IT THROUGH

"There were some who sought His society, feeling at peace

in His presence; but many avoided Him, because they were

rebuked by His stainless life. Young companions urged Him

to do as they did. He was bright and cheerful; they enjoyed

His presence, and welcomed His ready suggestions; but they

were impatient at His scruples, and pronounced Him narrow

and straitlaced. Jesus answered, It is written, 'Wherewithal

shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto

according to Thy word.'

"—The Desire of Ages,

page 89.

"There was in Him nothing that responded to Satan's

sophistry. He did not consent to sin. Not even by a thought

did He yield to temptation. . . . By what means did He over-

come in the conflict with Satan? By the Word of God."—

Ibid.,

123.

In what ways might I reveal the purpose of God as

shown in the Bible, in my everyday living before my

children?

"As a preparation for teaching His

precepts, God commands that they be

hidden in the hearts of the parents.

'These words, which I command thee

this day, shall be in thine heart,' He

says; 'and thou shalt teach them dili-

gently.' . . . In order to interest our

children in the Bible, we ourselves must

be interested in it. To awaken in them

a love for its study, we must love it.

Our instruction to them will have only

the weight of influence given it by our

own example and spirit."—"Educa-

tion," page 187.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Education," pages 33-44.

The Home—Primary Center of Education

LESSON 7

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Friday

November 12

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Part 6

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"Host thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the

GOD'S SECOND everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of

BOOK the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no

searching of His understanding. He giveth power to the

faint; and to them that have no might He increaseth

strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and

the young men shall utterly fall: but they that wait upon

the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount

up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be

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Isa. 40:28-31

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weary; and they shall walk, and not faint."

Of all the lessons that can be learned from a study of nature,

none can be a greater benefit than the realization of the power

and the love of God. The realization of God as the Creator

makes our own re-creation seem so simple.

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What are some lessons to be learned from Ps. 19:1-3?

THINK IT THROUGH

"Even now all created things declare the glory of His ex-

cellence. There is nothing, save the selfish heart of man, that

lives unto itself. No bird that cleaves the air, no animal that

moves upon the ground, but ministers to some other life. There

is no leaf of the forest, or lowly blade of grass, but has its

ministry. Every tree and shrub and leaf pours forth that

element of life without which neither man nor animal could

live ; and man and animal, in turn, minister to the life of tree

and shrub and leaf. The flowers breathe fragrance and unfold

their beauty in blessing to the world. The sun sheds its light

to gladden a thousand worlds. The ocean, itself the source of

all our springs and fountains; receives the streams from every

land, but takes to give. The mists ascending from its bosom

fall in showers to water the earth, that it may bring forth

and bud."—The

Desire of Ages,

pages 20, 21.

How can I instill both a love of nature and an appre-

ciation of God through its study in my children?

"To the little child, not yet capable

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the Presence that pervades all created proceeds. Only in harmony with Him

things."—"Education," page 100.

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"The same power that upholds na-

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ture, is working also in man. The same

FOR FURTHER

STUDY: "Education," pages 99-112.

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(4)

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LESSON 8

November

HEALTH VALUES IN THE HOME

"Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health,

even as thy soul prospereth." 3 John 2.

The concern of our Lord is not solely for

the souls of men. Through the apostle John

He expressed a like concern for the phys-

ical health, "even as thy soul prospereth."

While recognizing God's interest in our

maintaining good health, we must also

realize the important part the mind and

feelings of men have in affecting the rest

of the body.

Surely there is no place as important as

the Christian home for training in health

principles. It is in the home that the child

is trained for future usefulness. The Chris-

tian, therefore, in all of his home life

should exemplify those health principles

which demonstrate his belief that the body

is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

We must ever keep before children by

precept and example the need to care for

the body. We must teach them sound prin-

ciples which will go far toward protecting

them against the inroads of disease.

How careful we should be to make it

plain that certain restrictions which the

Christian observes are not merely religious

observances. Of course we have an obliga-

tion to God to preserve health. Children

ask for the reasons on which we base our

instructions, and they can see the argu-

ments for rules which will maintain health.

But if we present these only as arbitrary

commands, we may not have an enthu-

siastic following.

As we study the subject of health this

week, let us do so with an eye on the mir-

ror, determining how well we are setting

the example of healthful living that we

hope our children will follow.

LESSON OUTLINE

Knowledge Is Necessary

Gen. 18:19

Temperate in All Things

1 Cor. 9:24, 25

The Case for Abstinence

Rom. 12:1, 2

Importance of Diet

1 Cor. 3:17

Rest and Recreation

Mark 6:31

Sacrificial Living

Isa. 6:6-8

Health Values in the Home

LESSON 8

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Sunday

November 14

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Part 1

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"I know him, that he will command his children and

KNOWLEDGE IS his household after him."

NECESSARY

Gen. 18:19

of whom God could say, "I know him, that he will command

How fortunate is the child who has parents like Abraham,

his children and his household." But in being like Abraham,

it is necessary to have the knowledge that makes the command-

ing effective to the salvation of the child. This knowledge

Abraham had.

"Some mothers are not uniform in the treatment of their

children. At times they indulge them to their injury, and again

they refuse some innocent gratification that would make the

childish heart very happy. In this they do not imitate Christ."

—The Ministry of Healing,

page 390.

Among the other things which a child should learn as a part

of Christian living is the study of physiology.

"Parents should early seek to interest their children in the

study of physiology and should teach them its simpler prin-

ciples. Teach them how best to preserve the physical, mental,

and spiritual powers, and how to use their gifts so that their

lives may bring blessing to one another and honor to God.

This knowledge is invaluable to the young. An education in

the things that concern life and health is more important to

them than a knowledge of many of the sciences taught in the

schools."—Ibid., pp. 385, 386.

The parent who does not have this knowledge will find it

difficult to try to lead his children into habits of good living.

He will lack a basis for making the requirements of healthful

living reasonable.

What effect did a knowledge of the body have on

the psalmist? Ps. 139:14.

What is the strongest incentive to adopting a good

health regimen? 1 Cor. 3:17.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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What does a recognition of my body as the temple of

the living God do for me?

"The knowledge that man is to be

a temple for God, a habitation for the

revealing of His glory, should be the

highest incentive to the care and devel-

opment of our physical powers. Fear-

fully and wonderfully has the Creator

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child

Guidance," pages 360-366.

wrought in the human frame, and He

bids us make it our study, understand

its needs, and act our part in preserv-

ing it from harm and defilement."—

"The Ministry of Healing," page 271.

Health Values in the Home

LESSON 8

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Monday

November 15

"Know ye not that they which run in a race run all,

but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain.

And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate

in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible

crown; but we an incorruptible."

Paul's discussion of temperance is well illustrated by point-

ing to the runners in the Olympic games. No doubt the games

were as avidly followed by some in his day as they are today.

These runners were looked upon with admiration then, as

athletes are today.

How fitting that young people, particularly, should think

of the rewards of healthful living! Beyond immediate benefits

there are eternal goals for us as compared to the fading laurel

wreath given to the victor in the ancient games. See

SDA

Bible Commentary,

Vol. 6, p. 1089, and compare 2 Tim. 4:8.

It is important to know the relationship that exists between

temperance, temptation, and sin. "The diet has much to do

with the disposition to enter into temptation and commit sin."

—Counsels on Diet and Foods,

page 52.

While we often think of temperance in a special context,

that of the use of alcohol, tobacco, and narcotics, we might do

well to use a different word for these things—abstinence. We

really do not teach the temperate use of these things; to

understand this point better we shall give further considera-

tion to that phase of the question in part 3 of this lesson.

Part 2

TEMPERATE IN

ALL THINGS

1 Cor. 9:24, 25

What is Paul's attitude toward diet and toward our

judgment of the diet of others? Romans 14.

THINK IT THROUGH

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Is my practice of temperance principles consistent,

even in my working and playing?

"Many groan under a burden of in-

physical, mental, and moral power."

firmities because of wrong habits of —"The Sanctified Life," pages 25, 26.

eating and drinking, which do violence

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"The controlling power of appetite

to the laws of life and health. They are

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will prove the ruin of thousands, when,

enfeebling their digestive organs by

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if they had conquered on this point,

indulging perverted appetite. The they would have moral power to gain

power of the human constitution to victory over every other temptation of

resist the abuses put upon it is wonder-

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Satan. But slaves to appetite will fail

ful, but persistent wrong habits in

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in perfecting Christian character. The

excessive eating and drinking will en-

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continual transgression of man for six

feeble every function of the body. In

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thousand years has brought sick. ess,

the gratification of perverted appetite

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pain, and death, as its fruits."—"Tem-

and passion even professed Christians

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perance," page 16.

cripple nature in her work and lessen

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance," pages 394-400.

Health Values in. the Home

LESSON 8

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Tuesday

November 16

Part 3

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"I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of

THE CASE FOR God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy,

ABSTINENCE acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye trans-

formed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove

what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of

Rom. 12:1, 2 God."

In making a distinction between temperance and absti-

nence, we need this appeal from Paul. While we are aware that

many people define temperance as abstinence from that which

is harmful and restraint in the use of that which is good, in

this part of the lesson we are studying actual abstinence, with

no thought of temperance at all. The chief appeal that gives

strength in this respect is this statement in Romans.

What experience of Daniel illustrates the strength of

character needed by the Christian in areas requiring

total abstinence? Dan. 1:8-21.

THINK IT THROUGH

Alcoholic drinks are a prime example of the misuse of God's

benefits.

"Our Creator has bestowed His bounties upon man with a

liberal hand. Were all these gifts of Providence wisely and

temperately employed, poverty, sickness, and distress would

be well-nigh banished from the earth. But alas, we see on every

hand the blessings of God changed to a curse by the wicked-

ness of men.

"There is no class guilty of greater perversion and abuse of

His precious gifts than are those who employ the products of

the soil in the manufacture of intoxicating liquors. The nutri-

tive grains, the healthful, delicious fruits, are converted into

beverages that pervert the senses and madden the brain. As a

result of the use of these poisons, thousands of families are

deprived of the comforts and even the necessaries of life, acts

of violence and crime are multiplied, and disease and death

hurry myriads of victims to a drunkard's

grave."—Temperance,

page 31.

Does desire for social acceptance sometimes blunt my

wholehearted sacrifice of my body to God?

"The unnatural exhilaration which

intemperance gives to the mind and

spirits, lowers the sensibilities to moral

improvement, making it impossible for

holy impulses to affect the heart, and

hold government over the passions,

OR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance,"

when public opinion and fashion sus-

tain them. Festivities and amusements,

dances, and free use of wine, becloud

the senses, and remove the fear of

God."—"Temperance," page 50.

pages 401-410.

Health Values in the Home

LESSON 8

Part 4

IMPORTANCE

OF DIET

1 Cor. 3:17

THINK IT THROUGH

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Wednesday

November 17

"If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God

destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple

ye are."

This seems to be a foundation text for the health-reform

message which is so vital a part of the Advent message. It

provides a framework for a discussion of healthful living that

makes it a spiritual matter.

God's claim on our bodies as His temple makes the use of

anything which is harmful a means of defiling the temple. This

gives us a reason, as children of God, for discarding the harm-

ful.

What rule did Paul give for deciding what is good

and acceptable? 1 Cor. 10:31.

What connection is made between eating and glorify-

ing God?

"To eat on the Sabbath the same amount of food eaten on

a working day is entirely out of place. The Sabbath is the day

set apart for the worship of God, and on it we are to be spe-

cially careful in regard to our diet. A clogged stomach means

a clogged brain. Too often so large an amount of food is eaten

on the Sabbath that the mind is rendered dull and stupid,

incapable of appreciating spiritual

things."—Counsels on

Health,

page 577.

Is it pride, or is it appetite, that forms the chief reason

for the failure of so many to come up to God's purpose

for us in healthful living?

"I am instructed to say that if meat

eating ever were safe, it is not safe

now. Diseased animals are taken to

the large cities, and to the villages, and

sold for food. Many of these poor crea-

tures would have died of disease in

a very short time, if they had not been

slaughtered; yet the carcasses of these

diseased animals are prepared for the

market, and people eat freely of this

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child Guidance,"

poisonous food."—"Medical Ministry,"

page 280.

"It was when the children of Israel

sat down to eat and drink, and rose

up to play, that they threw off the fear

of God, which they had felt as they

listened to the giving of the law; and,

making a golden calf to represent God,

they worshiped it."—"The Acts of the

Apostles," page 316.

pages 371-377.

Health Values in the Home

LESSON 8

❑

Thursday

November

"And He said unto them, Come ye yourselves apart

into a desert place, and rest awhile: for there were

many coming and going, and they had no leisure so much

as to eat."

Part 5

REST AND

RECREATION

Mark 6:31

There are some who misread God's purpose for man when

they conclude that the urgency of the work of the gospel, or

any other cause, is so great that there is no time for needed

rest and recreation.

Christ's example should be noted here. This was not simply

compassion on His part for the weary disciples. He knew only

too well that to burn oneself out in any work merely shortens

the useful period of a person's life.

How did Christ show His thoughtfulness for the dis-

ciples even on that fateful night in the garden? Matt.

26:45.

What problem is presented by some athletic activi-

ties?

"Some of the most popular amusements, such as football

and boxing, have become schools of brutality. They are devel-

oping the same characteristics as did the games of ancient

Rome. The love of domination, the pride in mere brute force,

the reckless disregard of life, are exerting upon the youth a

power to demoralize that is appalling."—The

Adventist Home,

page 500.

THINK IT THROUGH

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In what ways can I be sure that my recreation and

that of my family tend to glorify God?

"How many of the youthful disci-

ples . . . have made God their trust

and portion, and have earnestly sought

to know and to do His will? There are

many who are servants of Christ in

name, but who are not so in deed.

Where religious principle governs, the

danger of committing great errors is

small; for selfishness, which always

blinds and deceives, is subordinate.

The sincere desire to do others good so

predominates that self is forgotten. To

have firm religious principles is an in-

estimable treasure. It is the purest,

highest, and most elevated influence

mortals can possess. Such have an an-

chor. Every act is well considered, lest

its effect be injurious to another and

lead away from Christ."—"Counsels on

Health," page 288.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 506-520.

Health Values in the Home

LESSON 8

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❑

Friday

November 19

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Part 6

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"Then flew one of the seraphims unto me, having a

SACRIFICIAL live coal in his hand, which he had taken with the

LIVING tongs from off the altar: and he laid

it upon my mouth,

and said, Lo, this hath touched thy lips; and thine iniquity

is taken away, and thy sin purged. Also I heard the

voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who

Isa. 6:6-8 will go for us? Then said I, Here am I; send me."

Not all of our going must be in the field of direct missionary

endeavor. The life lived sacrificially in the light of God's in-

struction is a powerful instrument to attract others to a search

for direction in their own lives.

The experience of Isaac in being offered as a sacrifice and

then miraculously being delivered must have been a great and

positive influence on his life. Gen. 22:1-13.

What should be our deterfoination regarding living

for God, in view of the instruction given us—this means

by which we are delivered from the altar of appetite

or passion?

Does the idea of sacrificial living and doing good

extend even to care of the body? Rom. 12:1, 2.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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What are some practices I should adopt in my life

that might be considered sacrificial living?

"Is it necessary that in order to solve

the problem of education one must

commit robbery toward God, and re-

fuse to give God the willing service of

the powers of the spirit, soul, and

body? God calls upon you to be doers

of His word, in order that you may be

thoroughly educated in the principles

that will give you a fitness for heaven.

. . . The purpose of education should

be to take in light in order that you

may impart light by letting it shine

forth to others in good works."—"Fun-

damentals of Christian Education,"

page 352.

"Oh, how can any who have the

light of truth, the great light given

them of God, defy the wrath and

judgments of God by sinning against

Him, and doing the very things God

has told them in His Word not to do?

How can they be so blinded by Satan

as to dishonor God to His face, and

defile their souls by sinning know-

ing ly?"—"Testimon ies to Ministers,"

page 447.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Ministry of Healing," pages 395-406.

Health Values in the Home

LESSON 8

Part 7

SUMMARY QUESTIONS

TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER

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dividual. One does not need to consider others in this part of his life

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is for

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LESSON 9

November

RECREATION THROUGH PLAY AND HOBBY

"Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory

of God." 1 Cor. 10:31.

This study is pertinent to the well-

rounded growing experience of both youth

and adult. Recreation in its most whole-

some form is as important as spiritual

exercise, diet, or physical and mental la-

bor. Balanced living is the key to Christian

living and witness. Whatever we do should

be done "to the glory of God." But success

in family recreation is not accidental. Study

and planning are needed if we are to reap

happy results.

KEY WORDS

Study:

2 Tim. 2:15, "Try hard to

show yourself worthy of God's approval,

as a laborer who need not be ashamed,

driving a straight furrow, in your proc-

lamation of the truth." NEB. The youthful

view of God is often colored by the

example of adults. To have an influence

that will "drive a straight furrow" de-

mands study by parents of ways to capi-

talize on the place of recreation in the

Christian growth of youth. Weeds grow

without planning or cultivation; beauty,

by planning and constant cultivation.

Recreation:

to re-create, to revitalize,

to renew, to relax, to reenergize—all are

the purposes of recreation and its genuine

end products. Any other by-products re-

sulting from recreational pursuits need

careful study to determine whether or not

they neutralize the spiritual.

Amusement:

Diversion is a form of

recreation with the built-in danger of possi-

ble shallow enjoyment without any relative

benefit that true recreation provides. Again

1 Cor. 10:31 needs careful application here.

Sports:

This word has several shades

of meaning that need study. Sports may

need to be avoided if they in any way neu-

tralize the primary objective of Christian

growth. Sports have the implication of

competition, which can be detrimental.

Sports also, in this day and age, often

imply excessive commercial entertainment

instead of participation. This has potential

danger to the Christian's stewardship of

time and money.

Hobbies:

Activities in which all can

have diversified enjoyable experiences and

where dexterity is not necessarily a factor

are "hobbies." They can be activities for

any day of the week, for Sabbath, for

future economic serenity, for sharing and

developing friendship, et cetera.

LESSON OUTLINE

Do Christians Need Recreation?

Prov. 17:22

Criteria for Recreation

1 Cor. 10:31; Phil. 4:5

Are Amusements and Sports

a Part of Recreation?

Prov. 4:14, 15

Choosing Fun for the Family

Prov. 3:6

Choosing Hobbies

Prov. 31:27

Sabbath Delights

Isa. 58:13; Lev. 23:32

Part 1

DO CHRISTIANS

NEED RECREATION?

Prov. 17:22

❑

Sunday

November 21

"A merry heart doeth good like a medicine."

Recreation Through Play and Hobby

LESSON 9

What outward testimony should true Christians pre-

sent to the world?

"Christians should be the most cheerful and happy people

that live. They may have the consciousness that God is their

Father and their everlasting Friend.

"But many professed Christians do not correctly represent

the Christian religion. They appear gloomy, as if under a

cloud. They often speak of the great sacrifices they have made

to become Christians. They appeal to those who have not

accepted Christ, representing by their own example and con-

versation that they must give up everything which would

make life pleasant and joyful. They throw a pall of darkness

over the blessed Christian hope. The impression is given that

God's requirements are a burden even to the willing soul, and

that everything that would give pleasure, or that would de-

light the taste, must be

sacrificed."—Messages to Young

People,

page 363.

"Recreation is needful to those who are engaged in physical

labor and is still more essential for those whose labor is prin-

cipally mental. It is not essential to our salvation, nor for the

glory of God, to keep the mind laboring constantly and ex-

cessively, even upon religious

themes."—Testimonies,

Vol. 1,

p. 514.

Might it be possible that the spirituality of my home

could be affected by my attitude toward recreation?

THINK IT THROUGH

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Actually, is there any phase or stage of life that is

not affected by the way we look upon recreation?

"It is the privilege and duty of Chris-

tians to seek to refresh their spirits and

invigorate their bodies by innocent

recreation, with the purpose of using

their physical and mental powers to the

glory of God. Our recreations should

not be scenes of senseless mirth, tak-

ing the form of the nonsensical. We can

conduct them in such a manner as will

benefit and elevate those with whom

we associate, and better qualify us

and them to more successfully attend

to the duties devolving upon us as

Christians.

"We cannot be excusable in the sight

of God if we engage in amusements

which have a

tendency

to unfit us for

the faithful performance of the ordi-

nary duties of life, and thus lessen our

relish for the contemplation of God

and heavenly things."—"Messages to

Young People," page 364.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," page 507.

Recreation Through Play and Hobby

LESSON 9

Part 2

CRITE3IA FOR

RECREATION

1 Cor. 10:31;

Phil. 4:5

❑

Monday

November 22

"Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever

ye do, do all to the glory of God."

"Let your moderation be known unto all men."

"There are persons with a diseased imagination to whom

religion is a tyrant, ruling them as with a rod of iron. . . .

They consider all recreation or amusement a sin. . . . This is

one extreme. Others think that the mind must ever be on the

stretch to invent new amusements and diversions. . . . They

learn to depend on excitement, and are uneasy without it."

—Counsels on Health,

page 631.

THINK IT THROUGH

What is the true purpose of education?

"In this age, life has become artificial, and men have de-

generated. While we may not return fully to the simple habits

of those early times, we may learn from them lessons that will

make our seasons of recreation what the name implies—seasons

of true upbuilding for body and mind and

soul."—Education,

page 211.

What does the term "re-create" imply? Is there a

need for agreement in the home on the kinds of play

and diversion that could be helpful to every member of

the family?

In what ways can recreation enter into meals, wor-

ship, trips, and work programs of the family as well as

the stated times of diversion? Can everyday family living

be an adventure in recreation?

"Are your recreations such as to

impart moral and spiritual vigor? Will

they lead to purrijio

—

abblif and

action? Impurity is today widespread,

even among the professed followers

of Christ. Passion is unrestrained; the

animal propensities are gaining

strength by indulgence, while the moral

powers are constantly becoming

weaker. Many are eagerly participat-

ing in worldly, demoralizing amuse-

ments which God's Word forbids. Thus

they sever their connection with God

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"The Adventist Home," pages 506, 507.

and rank themselves with the pleasure

lovers of the world. The sins that de-

stroyed the antediluvians and the cities

of the plain exist today—not merely in

heathen lands, not only among popular

professors of Christianity, but with

some who profess to be looking for the

coming of the Son of man. If God

should present these sins before you as

they appear in His sight, you would be

filled with shame and terror."—"Tes-

timonies," Vol. 5, p. 218.

Part 3

ARE AMUSEMENTS

AND SPORTS A

PART OF

RECREATION?

Prov. 4:14, 15

❑

Tuesday

November 23

"Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in

the way of evil men. Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from

it, and pass away."

What is the difference between recreation and amuse-

ment?

"There is a distinction between recreation and amusement.

Recreation, when_ true to its name, re-creation, tends to

strengthen and build up. . . . Amusement, on the other hand,

is sought for the sake of pleasure and is often carried to ex-

cess."—Education,

page 207.

"In order for children and youth to have health, cheerful-

ness, vivacity, and well-developed muscles and brains, they

should be much in the open air and have well-regulated em-

ployment and

amusement."—Testimonies,

Vol. 3, p. 137.

"Let the parents study to get up something to take the

place of more dangerous amusements." —/bid., Vol. 1, p. 514.

"There is great need of temperance in amusements, as in

every other

pursuit."—Counsels to Teachers,

page 333.

"Sports and games open the door to a flood of temptations."

—Ibid.,

p. 366.

"They [excessive athletic games] tend to destroy a relish

for life's sober realities and its tranquil enjoyments. Thus the

door is opened to dissipation and lawlessness, with their ter-

rible

results."—Education,

page 211.

Is the danger in amusement and sports themselves or

in the problem of imbalance? Is there as much danger

in sedentary "sports" of adults, such as gossip or criti-

cism, as in excess in team sports of youth?

THINK IT THROUGH

•

Recreation Through Play and Hobby

LESSON 9

"While we are seeking to refresh our

spirits and invigorate our bodies, we

are required of God to use all our

powers at all times to the best pur-

pose. We can, and should, conduct our

recreations in such a manner that we

shall be better fitted for the more suc-

cessful discharge of the duties devolv-

ing upon us, and our influence will be

more beneficial upon those with whom

we associate. . . .

"Any amusement in which you can

engage asking the blessing of God

upon it in faith will not be dangerous.

But any amusement which disqualifies

you for secret prayer, for devotion at

the altar of prayer, or for taking part

in the prayer meeting, is not safe, but

dangerous."—"Counsels to Teachers,"

pages 336, 337.

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"The Adventist Home," page 511.

Recreation Through Play and Hobby

LESSON 9



❑

Wednesday

November 24



Part 4



"In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall

CHOOSING FUN direct thy paths."

FOR THE FAMILY

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Prey. 3:6

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from care, labor, and perplexity. Parents should become chil-

"On such occasions parents and children should feel free

dren with their children, making everything as pleasant for

them as possible. . . . Nothing will be lost, but much gained."

—Testimonies,

Vol. 1, p. 515.

Is Mrs. White's counsel on this subject out of date? Is there

a danger of limiting the concept of fun? Shouldn't it include

all phases of living?

Are the recreational pursuits to be solely what the parents

like to do—or should they take into account the ages and

interests of the children?

In what way can the child's attitude toward work

help in his outlook on life? in his choice of a vocation?

and in his enjoyment of life?

THINK IT THROUGH

Some youth have a tendency to feel that the Seventh-

day Adventist teaching with respect to fun is too re-

stricted. What are avenues of wholesome discussion and

activity that are worthy of our time and effort? What is

the duty of parents and teachers to the youth who have

difficulty understanding the danger of questionable

amusements?

"Youth

cannot be made as sedate

and grave as old age, the child as

sober as the sire. While sinful amuse-

ments are condemned, as they should

be, let parents, teachers, and guardians

of youth provide in their stead innocent

pleasures, which will not taint or cor-

rupt the morals."—"Counsels to Teach-

ers," page 335.

"There are modes of recreation

which are highly beneficial to both

mind and body. An enlightened, dis-

criminating mind will find abundant

means for entertainment and diver-

sion, from sources not only innocent,

but instructive. Recreation in the open

air, the contemplation of the works of

God in nature, will be of the highest

benefit.

"The great God, whose glory shines

from the heavens, and whose divine

hand upholds millions of worlds, is our

Father. We have only to love Him, trust

in Him, as little children in faith and

confidence, and He will accept us as

His sons and daughters, and we shall

be heirs to all the inexpressible glory

of the eternal world. All the meek will

He guide in judgment, the meek will

He teach His way. If we will walk in

obedience to His will, learn cheerfully

and diligently the lessons of His prov-

idence, by and by He will say: Child,

come home to the heavenly mansions

I have prepared for you."—"Testimo-

nies," Vol. 4, p. 653.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," page 508; "Testimonies," Vol. 1,

pp. 514, 515.

Part 5

CHOOSING HOBBIES

Prov. 31:27

❑

Thursday

November 25

"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and

eateth not the bread of idleness."

"Parents cannot commit a greater sin than to allow their

children to have nothing to

do."—Christ's Object Lessons,

page 345.

"It is a sin to let them [children] grow up in idleness."

—Testimonies,

Vol. 2, p. 371.

What counsel does the Bible give about idleness?

Prov. 6:6-11.

Recreation Through

Play and Hobby

LESSON 9

THINK IT THROUGH

Although there is no substitute for the responsibility of

work, the developing of hobbies is a most important supple-

ment to gainful occupation of time. Is there a better way to

nurture a never-ending fellowship adv_enture_with your chil-

dren and with each other?

What might be some hobbies that would unite the follow-

ing categories:

Indoor

Outdoor

Active

Quiet

Secular

Religious

Must Christianity be mostly theoretical or mostly prac-

tical if we are to win the youth for Christ? If religion is

largely caught instead of taught, am I utilizing the natu-

ral youth hobby interest in the mission field which is my

family? Does the following quotation have application

in the field of hobbies?

"In the place of providing diversions

that merely amuse, arrangements

should be made for exercises that will

be productive of good. . . .

"God bestows talents upon men, not

that these talents may lie unused or

employed in self-gratification, but that

they may be used to bless others. God

grants men the gift of time for the

purpose of promoting His glory. When

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"The Adventist Home," pages 509, 510.

this time is used in selfish pleasure, the

hours thus spent are lost for all eter-

nity.

"Our young people need to be sur-

rounded with wholesome, uplifting in-

fluences. They are to be kept in the

love of the truth. The standard set

before them should be high."—"Coun-

sels to Teachers," page 354:

Recreation Through Play and Hobby

LESSON 9

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❑

Friday

November 26

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Part 6



"And call the Sabbath a delight, the holy of the

SABBATH DELIGHTS Lord, honorable; and shalt honor Him."

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Isa. 58:13;



"From even unto even, shall ye celebrate your Sab-

Lev. 23:32 bath."

There are all sorts of Sabbath keepers. Some are quite happy

and delighted in the day. They are never weary with its hours,

and they never wish them to be gone. The Sabbath to them

is neither a burden nor an escape from life.

But others there are to whom the Sabbath is merely an

obligation and Sabbath keeping a job of religion. Still others

observe the Sabbath out of habit.

"Parents, above everything take care of your children upon

the Sabbath."—Child

Guidance,

page 533.

"We are not to teach our children that they must not be

happy on the Sabbath."—Ibid., pp. 533, 534.

"Do not weary them with long prayers and tedious exhorta-

tions, but through nature's object lessons teach them obedience

to the law of God."—The

Desire of Ages,

pages 516, 517.

Can Sabbath self-discipline and delight become one

and the same for all the members of the family? How?

THINK IT THROUGH

Since the word "celebrate" suggests happy participation, list

various ways Sabbath can become a unique celebration in wor-

ship activities, hobbies, faith sharing, and the like.

Do we make the Sabbath a delight or a depressant

to our children? What is the Sabbath intended to be in

the life of the family?

"Make it [the Sabbath] the most in-

minds something to feed upon by con-

teresting day of the week."—"Testi- versing with them upon the works of

monies," Vol. 2, p. 584.

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bright sunshine, and give their restless

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hearts for it."—"Ibid.," pp. 584, 585.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home ," pages 503, 504.

Recreation Through Play and Hobby

LESSON 9

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LESSON 10

December 4

"For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." Luke 12:34.

True economy is the saving of that

which is of value. Matt. 16:26. What do

we treasure more, people or things? Some

foolishly treasure things that will perish

with this world and that nourish vanity,

pride, and covetousness. Others treasure

people and spiritual values that will endure

and that can bring comfort and satisfac-

tion. The aim of this lesson is to study

how to save that which is of value to the

home and family.

KEY THOUGHTS

Some gains are losses:

Adam and Eve

thought they had gained their freedom, but

they lost their dominion. King Saul gained

animals and lost a kingdom. Judas gained

silver and lost a Saviour.

The price is exorbitant:

If we ruin

our health to accumulate wealth; if we lose

our children to save tuition money; if we

lose a friend to gain some property.

Proverbs worth considering:

Poor

people have poor ways. A willful waste

makes a woeful want. He who buys what

he does not need, will need what he cannot

buy. A fool and his money are soon •parted.

Idleness is sin.

LESSON OUTLINE

Talents Given to Everyone

Matt. 25:14, 15

Time

Luke 19:13

Have a Schedule

Eccl. 3:1

Earning Money

Deut. 8:18

Spending Money

Matt. 22:21

Practice Economy

Maft. 14:20

Economics in the Home

LESSON 10

THINK IT THROUGH

❑

Sunday

November 28

"For the kingdom of heaven is as a man traveling

into a far country, who called his own servants, and

delivered unto them his goods. And unto one he gave

five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every

man according to his several ability; and straightway

took his journey."

Talents are the tools the Master assigns to each worker. By

learning how to use these tools skillfully one increases his

efficiency greatly. We could say then that one's talents are

doubled by securing a Christian education, for "education is

but a preparation of the physical, intellectual, and moral

powers for the best performance of all the duties of life."—

Testimonies,

Vol. 4, p. 498. Each talent we possess is a re-

sponsibility God has assigned to us.

This education is to begin in the home. "The home is the

child's first school, and it is here that the foundation should

be laid for a life of service."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page

400. "Children as well as parents have important duties in the

home."—Ibid., p. 394. "It is essential for parents to find useful

employment for their children, which will involve the bearing

of responsibilities as their age and strength will permit."—

Counsels to Teachers,

page 146.

What time is given to us in which to labor? Ex. 20:9.

"Parents cannot commit a greater sin than to allow their

children to have nothing to

do."—Christ's Object Lessons,

page 345. "God appointed work as a blessing, and only the

diligent worker finds the true glory and joy of life."—The

Desire of Ages,

page 72.

How essential is Christian education?

"Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom."

Prov. 4:7. "The work of education and the work of redemption

are

one."—Education,

page 30.

In addition to the arts and skills, am I overlooking

such talents as influence, cooperation, friendliness?

Part 1

TALENTS GIVEN

TO EVERYONE

Matt. 25:14, 15

"The development of all our powers

is the first duty we owe to God and to

our fellowmen. No one who is not

growing daily in capability and use-

fulness is fulfilling the purpose of life.

In making a profession of faith in

Christ we pledge ourselves to become

all that it is possible for us to be as

workers for the Master, and we should

cultivate every faculty to the highest

degree of perfection, that we may do

the greatest amount of good of which

we are capable."—"Christ's Object Les-

sons," pages 329, 330.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "Christ's Object Lessons," pages 327-365.

Economics in the Home

LESSON 10

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Monday

November 29

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Part 2

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"And he called his ten servants, and delivered them

TIME ten pounds, and said unto them, Occupy till I come."

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Luke 19:13

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"Our time belongs to God. Every moment is His, and we

are under the most solemn obligation to improve it to• His

glory....

"We have no time to waste, no time to devote to selfish

pleasure, no time for the indulgence of

sin."—Christ's Object

Lessons,

page 342.

Sufficient time is given for every duty God requires of man;

therefore, anyone who does not have time to do his duty is

doing something that is not his duty. "Parents should allow

nothing to prevent them from giving to their children all the

time that is necessary to make them understand what it means

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obey and trust the Lord

fully ."—C ounsels to Teachers,

page 129.

What should a man do who does not have time for

his family?

"If he [the father] is engaged in business which almost

wholly closes the door of usefulness to his family, he should

seek other employment which will not prevent him from devot-

ing some time to his children."—The

Adventist Home,

page

221.

What should a mother do who does not have time

for her children?

THINK IT THROUGH

"It is the cry of many mothers: 'I •have no time to be with

my children.' Then for Christ's sake spend less time on your

dress. . . . Neglect to receive and make calls. Neglect to cook

an endless variety of dishes. But never, never neglect your

children."—The

Adventist Home,

pages 191, 192.

In the parable of the talents upon what did success

depend? Matt. 25:21.

Success in any line depends on the to it. One reason why so many homes

time devoted to it. A student must

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are breaking up today is that so little

spend time with his lessons if he is to

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time is spent in companionship.

learn anything. A professional person

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"Let parents devote the evenings to

must spend time with his profession if

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their families. Lay off care and per-

he is to serve others. No business can

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plexity with the labors of the day."

succeed unless time is given to it. No —"The Adventist Home," page 192.

home can succeed unless time is given

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"Christ's Object Lessons," pages 345-349.

Economics in the Home

LESSON 10

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Tuesday

November 30

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Part 3

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"To everything there is a season, and a time to every

HAVE A SCHEDULE purpose under the heaven."

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Eccl. 3:1

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One of the relentless things about life is that it is passing.

Time spends itself no matter what we do with it. It moves at

its own pace, and we can't "save" any part of it. The only

part we play in its passing is the purpose to which we put

it. We can waste it or use it well; we can fill it full or leave

it empty and idle. We can use it for the right things or for

the wrong things.

What does the wise man say about time? Eccl. 8:5,

last part.

Every successful business has a definite program, a schedule.

Every successful home must have the same. Inasmuch as some

responsibilities require more time than others and all of us are

tempted to spend more time with certain duties than with

others, a budget should be made before the schedule is started.

What should the slow, careless worker do?

THINK IT THROUGH

"There is no excuse for slow bungling at work of any char-

acter. . . . The one who is slow and who works at a disad-

vantage should realize that these are faults to be corrected.

He needs to exercise his mind in planning how to use the time

so as to secure the best results."--Christ's

Object Lessons,

page 344.

How much time do I waste in doing things that don't

mean much to me or to anyone else? Am I putting off

doing the important things of life while waiting for "a

more convenient season"?

"It is the duty of every Christian to

acquire habits of order, thoroughness,

and dispatch.... When one is always

at work and the work is never done, it

is because mind and heart are not put

into the labor.... By tact and method,

some will accomplish as much in five

hours as others do in ten. Some who

are engaged in domestic labor are al-

ways at work not because they have

so much to do but because they do not

FOR FURTHER STUDY:

"Child Guidance,"

pages 190-194.

plan so as to save time. By their slow,

dilatory ways they make much work

out of very little. But all who will, may

overcome these fussy, lingering habits.

In their work let them have a definite

aim. Decide how long a time is re-

quired for a given task, and then bend

every effort toward accomplishing the

work in the given time."—"Christ's Ob-

ject Lessons," page 344.

pages

110-112;

"The Adventist Home,"

Economics in the Home

LESSON 10

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Wednesday

December 1

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Part 4

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"Thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is He

EARNING MONEY that giveth thee power to get wealth."

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Deut. 8:18

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The money one earns goes into his pocket. The money one

spends becomes in a very real way a part of his character. A

Christian parent should teach his child how to earn and to

spend money. In the hands of a Christian money can be a bless-

ing to himself and to others.

Man is to earn his living. Gen. 3:19. God promises to give

the power but not the wealth. Deut. 8:18. One should work

for what he gets. If he does not work, he should not eat.

2 Thess. 3:10.

When should the training for life's responsibilities

begin? Prov. 22:6.

"As soon as strength and reasoning power are sufficiently

developed, he [the child] should be given duties to perform

in the home."—The

Ministry of Healing,

page 401.

How can a child earn money?

THINK IT THROUGH

The home is the ideal place. Mother is the employer and

the child is the employee. Mother may make out a list of

certain work a child can do in the kitchen, dining room, laun-

dry, yard, garden, and elsewhere and assign a point value to

each item and a cash value to each point. For example:

Wash dishes

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Care for garbage

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Dry dishes

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Sweep kitchen

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Wash pots and pans

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Selecting the job himself gives the child a greater desire to

do his best, and so he learns more. Mother inspects the work

done and records the number of points earned each day. At

the end of the week she totals the number of points and mul-

tiplies this by the cash value and pays the employee in full. A

little work gets little pay. A child is not to be paid for every-

thing he does around the house, but he receives pay only for

the chores stipulated in the agreement. He is a regular em-

ployee in this home-school and is paid in accordance with the

business agreement made at the beginning of the week.

What should the individual do when he is unem-

ployed?

"Many who through diligent labor fast purpose opens the door to a thou-

might have been a blessing to the sand temptations."—"Christ's Object

world, have been ruined through idle- Lessons," page 345.

ness. Lack of employment and of stead-

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Christ's Object Lessons," pages 354, 355; "Child Guidance."

pages 122-127.

Economics in the Home

LESSON 10

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Thursday

December 2

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Part 5

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"Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are

SPENDING MONEY Caesar's; and unto God the things that are God's."

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Matt. 22:21

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Parents should teach the child how to spend his money.

This calls for a budget. A budget neither takes from nor adds

to the amount, but it does enable one to spend economically.

One way of teaching a child how to budget his money is to

divide his earnings into four parts.

PART ONE is for God—tithes and offerings. The child

should be taught that God comes first in his money and in his

affections. After tithe come offerings such as Sabbath School

offerings and other church funds.

PART TWO is used to supply personal needs. We might

begin with one inexpensive article of clothing. By the time he

is in his teens, he should be able to buy all his own clothes

with the money allowed. What is the difference between a debt

and an investment?

PART THREE is for a savings account. No business is

secure without some capital, and no home is secure without a

savings account. This is just the opposite of the charge ac-

count, which often costs a couple more than they realize in

interest, besides tempting them to overspend.

What instruction is given in the Bible concerning debt?

Rom. 13:8.

"We should shun debt as we should shun the leprosy."—

Testimonies,

Vol. 6, p. 217. Debt is a handicap. It causes fric-

tion between husband and wife. It is worth the effort to pay

off the debts and start a savings account.

PART FOUR is the personal allowance. If every dime is

tagged, the child is likely to get the idea that money is simply

to be passed on to someone else. But if he sees that twenty-five

cents out of every dollar is his to spend as he pleases, he begins

to realize that money has value. He may make some poor

investments, but better lose a few quarters now than many

dollars later. A child learns to spend money by using it.

Each adult should have a personal allowance. After our

obligations to God and to man are cared for and something

laid away for emergencies, the remainder should be divided

between husband and wife.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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How does money spending reveal character?

"Money has great value, because it

can do great good. In the hands of

God's children it is food for the hungry,

drink for the thirsty, and clothing for

the naked. It is a defense for the op-

pressed, and a means of help to the

sick. But money is of no more value

than sand, only as it is put to use in

providing for the necessities of life, in

blessing others, and advancing the

cause of Christ."—"Christ's Object Les-

sons," page 351.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 367-398.

Economics in the Home

LESSON 10

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Friday

December 3

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Part 6

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"And they did all eat, and were filled: and they took

PRACTICE up of the fragments that remained twelve baskets full."

Matt. 14:20

ECONOMY

sand."—Child Guidance,

page 135.

"There is a lesson for us in the feeding of the five thou-

"Nothing that can be utilized should be thrown away. This

will require wisdom, and forethought, and constant care."

—Ibid.

Good wholesome food should not be thrown away;

neither should we overeat of it. An impoverished diet is poor

economy regardless of the price paid.

Why should children learn to economize?

"Teach your children that God has a claim upon all they

possess, and that nothing can ever cancel this claim; all they

have is theirs only in trust, to prove whether they will be

obedient. . . . Habits of economy, industry, and sobriety are,

even in this world, a better portion for you and your children

than a rich dowry."—Ibid., p. 134. One way of teaching econ-

omy in time is to have everything returned to its place when

not in use. Hours are wasted in looking for lost articles. Equally

necessary is it to have a time (a schedule) for regular family

routine.

What kind of toys should be given to children?

"Do not give the children playthings that are easily broken.

To do this is to teach lessons in destructiveness. Let them have

a few playthings, and let these be strong and durable. Such

suggestions, small though they may seem, mean much in the

education of the

child."—Counsels to Teachers,

page 123.

When he grows older a child should learn to repair his toys.

Small repairs mean large savings. "The inability to save, in

little things, is one reason why so many families suffer for lack

of the necessities of

life."—Ibid.,

p. 135.

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THINK IT THROUGH

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How do some people use the time that others waste?

"A few moments here and a few

there, that might be frittered away in

aimless talk; the morning hours so

often wasted in bed; . . . the moments

of waiting . .. —if a book were kept at

hand, and these fragments of time were

improved in study, reading, or careful

thought, what might not be accom-

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child GuidanCe,"

Home," pages 381-385.

plished. A resolute purpose, persistent

industry, and careful economy of time,

will enable men to acquire knowledge

and mental discipline which will qual-

ify them for almost any position of in-

fluence and usefulness."—"Christ's Ob-

ject lessons," page 343.

pages 101, 102, 134-136; "The Adventist

Economics in the Home

LESSON 10

Part 7 G SUMMARY QUESTIONS G TO TEST YOUR STUDY POWER

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a gift,

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a responsibility,

(c)

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LESSON 11

December 11

LOVE, THE HOME'S FOUNDATION 111

"Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and everyone that loveth

is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God

is love." 1 John 4:7, 8.

It no doubt seems trite to suggest that

love is the foundation of the home. What

is true of any home in this respect is

doubly true of the Christian home. This is

an area, however, where we sometimes get

involved in a swampland of words which

we use glibly, often failing really to think

through just what we mean by the words.

The fact that in Western countries, and

especially in America, the home is many

times established as the result of romantic

love, sometimes causes us to wonder why

the excitement and wonder fade with the

passing months. Romantic love involves a

great deal of sentimentality, a "tickle under

the fifth rib" type of thing; but, essential

and wonderful as that is, it takes a deeper

and more meaningful love to build a home.

It takes a love that will face trials and

disappointments, that will endure the strug-

gles of raising a family.

Our study this week will explore this

kind of love.

LESSON OUTLINE

Love, the Christian's Mark

John 13:35

Love Is Concern

Jer. 31:3

Love Is Responsibility

Num. 10:31

Love Is Empathy

Eze. 3:15

Love Is Knowing

John 10:27

An Analysis of Love

1 Cor. 13:4-7

Love, the Home's Foundation

LESSON 11

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Sunday

December

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Part 1

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"By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples,

LOVE, THE if ye have love one to another."

CHRISTIAN'S MARK

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John 13:35

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the beast and the seal of God, and come to believe that Sab-

We sometimes get carried away in studying the mark of

bath keeping is the supreme indication of our discipleship.

While we must not ignore its importance, particularly in the

last days, we must heed the words of Christ that the most

evident mark of discipleship is love. "Said Jesus: 'Love one

another, as I have loved you.' How much? His love cannot

told."—Testimonies,

Vol. 1, p. 150. We should love others

well enough to give our life for a brother.

It is a simple matter to talk about love. But we must be

certain of how it is to operate in the Christian life and home

What relationship exists between a knowledge oi

God and love for others? 1 John 4:7, 8.

We should admit proudly that the raising of a family is

work of the highest order. The training of children is said to

be work of the "nicest" order committed to man. What is said

about pure love in relation to the work we do?

"Pure love is simple in its operations, and separate from

every other principle of action. . . . God considers more with

how much love we work, than the amount we do. . . . Love

does good and nothing but good. Those who have love beat

fruit unto holiness, and in the end everlasting life."—Ellen G.

White Comments,

The SDA Bible Commentary,

Vol. 7, p. 952

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THINK IT THROUGH

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To what extent is my profession of dicipleship cor•

roborated by a demonstration of true love t

ohers?

"Above all things else, let parents

surround their children with an atmos-

phere of cheerfulness, courtesy, and

love. A home where love dwells, and

where it is expressed in looks, in

words, and in acts, is a place where

angels delight to manifest their pres-

ence."—"The Ministry of Healing,"

pages 386, 387.

"The first lesson that children are to

be taught is that God is their Father.

This lesson should be given them in

their earliest years. Parents are to real-

ize that they are responsible before

God for making their children ac-

quainted with their heavenly Father.

. . . That God is love is to be taught

by every lesson."—"Child Guidance,"

page 487.

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Child _Guidance," pages 258=268.

Love, the Home's Foundation

LESSON 11

Part 2

LOVE IS CONCERN

Jer. 31:3

THINK IT THROUGH

❑

Monday

December 6

"The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea,

I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore

with loving-kindness have I drawn thee."

This text sets in bold relief the first ingredient of true love

—CONCERN. It was concern for man's welfare that led God

to make the supreme gift to mankind. While the acceptance

of this gift must be the free choice of man, God works with

man constantly. Jer. 3:13, 14.

If we are to be as God wants us to be, this same constant

concern must mark our dealings with each other as parents

and our dealings with our children.

"Neither parents nor children can have peace or happiness

or rest of spirit in any false path. But when the fear of God

reigns in the heart, combined with love for Jesus, peace and

and joy will be

felt."—Child Guidance,

page 67.

Much of Christ's instruction was to show man how to be

happy (blessed).

Review the Beatitudes, reading "happy" instead of

"blessed." Matt. 5:3-12.

True love seeks genuine happiness for the children.

Child

Guidance,

page 135, states that true love for children will be

expressed by not "indulging their pride, their extravagance,

their love of display."

Keep this facet of love in mind when we study the ques-

tion of discipline in the home, because it is concerned with the

growth of the person as an individual.

How can I be sure my dealings with the children and

with my life partner stem from love and concern for

their welfare rather than from my pride and self-

concern?

'Love has a twin sister, which is

duty. Love and duty stand side by side.

Love exercised while duty is neglected

will make children headstrong, willful,

perverse, selfish, and disobedient. If

stern duty is left to stand alone with-

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "The Adventist Home," pages 50-54.

out love to soften and win, it will have

a similar result. Duty and love must be

blended in order that children may be

properly disciplined."—"Testimonies,"

Vol. 3, p. 195.

Love, the Home's Foundation

LESSON 11

Part 3

LOVE IS

RESPONSIBILITY

Num. 10:31

THINK IT THROUGH

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Tuesday

December 7

"And he said, Leave us not, I pray thee; forasmuch

as thou knowest how we are to encamp in the wilder-

ness, and thou mayest be to us instead of eyes."

The experience of Moses with Hobab is a clear illustration

of the second ingredient to be found where there is genuine

love—RESPONSIBILITY. This is another word that can be

slipped over carelessly. It is actually the ability to respond to

and satisfy a need. It is a primary evidence of God's love to

us, that He is able to respond to and satisfy all of our needs.

Happy the home which is peopled with those who are will-

ing to help and encourage each other.

How did Joseph satisfy the material needs of his

father and his brethren? Gen. 45:16-28.

Even as Joseph showed real love in caring for the brothers

who had so terribly wronged him, parents need to accept and

strengthen children who have failed.

"Do not withdraw your love now. That love and sympathy

is needed now as never before. When others look with coldness

and put the worst construction upon the misdeeds of your

boy, should not the father and mother in pitying tenderness

seek to guide his footsteps into

safe paths?"—Child Guidance,

page 266.

Why is it so important for children to receive love

from parents and others?

"Do not treat your children only with sternness, forgetting

. that they are but children. Do not expect them to be

perfect. . . . By so doing, you will close the door of access

which you might otherwise have to them and will drive them

to open a door for injurious influences, for others to poison

their young minds."—The

Adventist Home,

page 196.

How can I best recognize and satisfy the needs of my

mate and my children?

"Fathers and mothers, in the home traits of character developed in their

you are to represent God's disposition.

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children, and have not had the tender-

You are to require obedience, not with ness and wisdom to deal with these

a storm of words, but in a kind, loving poor children, whom they have made

manner. You are to be so full of com-

what they are. . . . But Jesus looks

passion that your children will be

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upon these children with pity and with

drawn to you."—"Child Guidance," love, for He sees, He understands from

page 259.

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cause to effect."—"Fundamentals of

"Even parents have not understood Christian Education," page 262.

how much they are responsible for the

FOR FURTHER STUDY: "Education," pages 113, 114.

Part 4

LOVE IS EMPATHY

Eze. 3:15

THINK IT THROUGH

L Wednesday

December 8

"Then I came to them of the captivity of Tel-abib, that

dwelt by the river of Chebar, and I sat where they sat,

and remained there astonished among them seven days."

Read the first three chapters of Ezekiel to get the setting

for this verse, which points out the third ingredient of love—

EMPATHY. This word may be unfamiliar to some. The mean-

ing here is the ability to put oneself into another's place, and

thus better understand why he acts or speaks as he does.

What is the secret of Christ's success as our Mediator?

Heb. 2:17, 18.

In no situation is empathy more important than in the

home. It might help to bridge the "generation gap" if children

could see the viewpoint of the parents; but let us be realistic

and say that parents should also concentrate on developing

the ability to see their children's viewpoint.

"Let father and mother remember that they themselves are

but grown-up children. .

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. Because of their own mistakes

and errors they should learn to deal gently with their erring

children.

"You may feel annoyed sometimes because your children

go contrary to what you have told them. But have you ever

thought that many times you go contrary to what the Lord

has commanded you to

do?"—Child Guidance,

pages 264, 265.

What are some of the ways husbands and wives can

show empathy for each other? Should parents feel con-

cern for their children?

Love, the Home's Foundation

LESSON 11

"Children need constant watchcare

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"Administer the rules of the home

and tender love. Bind them to your in wisdom and love, not with a rod of

hearts, and keep the love as well as

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iron. Children will respond with will-

the fear of God before them. Fathers

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ing obedience to the rule of love. Com-

and mothers do not control their own

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mend your children whenever you can.

spirit and therefore are not fit to gov-

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. . . Remember that children need not

ern others. . . . You have yet to learn

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only reproof and correction, but also

to do justly and love mercy, as well as encouragement and commendation, the

to walk humbly with God."—"Testi- pleasant sunshine of kind words."—

monies," Vol. 4, p. 621.

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"Counsels to Teachers," page 114.

FOR

FURTHER STUDY: "Testimonies," Vol. 3, pp. 133-136.

Love, the Home's Foundation

LESSON 11

Part 5

LOVE IS KNOWING

Psalm 103:13,14

THINK IT THROUGH

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Thursday

December

"Like as a father pitieth his children, so the Lord

pitieth them that fear Him. For He knoweth our frame;

He remembereth that we are dust."